What does he want

ShaynaLynne011 · May 28, 2008, 10:03 AM

First of all we had sex on a Sunday and he broke up with me Monday. All he ever says to me is he is sorry. He said he just isn't feeling anything. I said then why did you go through with having sex and his response was I THOUGHT IT WOULD MAKE THINGS BETTER And I asked him if he had a good day and he said no and I was like why he said Shayna you act like Im not hurting. If he is hurting then why doesn't he want to be with me. He told me last night that I was the perfect girl and that when he was ready to settle down if I still wanted to be with him then he would come back into my arms. But I don't know how long he is planning on making me wait. I asked him not to make me wait long and he promised me I wouldn't have to but everyone is telling me not to do it. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT HE IS REALLY WANTING TO DO... I Don't KNOW WHAT TO DO

bigbird213 · May 28, 2008, 10:11 AM

Leave him alone.

For whatever reason, he is putting space between you and himself and he wants to figure something out. Either way, pushing him or not giving him what he wants is a sure way to lose him. At this point in the game, you can't do anything to make him come back, all you can do is something to make him run away... pushing him for a decision.

My advice -- get busy. It will help to keep your mind off him and build a life, or a better life, outside of him. He will talk to you when he is ready. Waiting for his response is not a good idea, as you could be using the time to work at being happy.

bigbird213 · May 28, 2008, 10:12 AM

There are also a few questions that need to be answered before I can give you any better advice...

How long have you two known each other/been going out for?
Was this the first time that they two of you had sex?
How old are you two?

damaged · May 28, 2008, 12:42 PM

Like BigBird said, leave him alone.. You don't need to be waiting for anybody to make up their mind and decide if they want to be with you... You're better than that... so just do your thing, and let it be.

"Handle every stressful situation like a dog.
If you can't eat it or play with it, pee on it and walk away":D

talaniman · May 28, 2008, 04:15 PM

The whole story
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2825259
Time to leave this guy alone, and move forward with your life.

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