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drkchoc88 · May 27, 2008, 11:53 PM

I dated my current girlfriend for 2 months, we broke up and stopped talking for a little while. She got a boyfriend broke up with him and now we got back together and have been for 7 months now. This is a time span of about 2 1/2 years. Within this time she lost her virginity to me. At first I thought nothing of it because I was sure we were going to be together forever but now I am confused. Super confused.
Before we started going out for the second time I would talk about her all the time because that's how much I wanted her and I asked her out when I did partially because I wanted to go out with her and partially because I felt that if I didn't ask her out soon that I would loose her.
Now that we have been going out it has slowly died down for me, and I don't know what wrong. Its so bad that when I'm not with her I am constantly looking and wanting to talk to other girls. The only reason I haven't said anything to any other girls is because I am a shy guy but if I wasn't I think I wouldve done so already.
She is also the first person I can truly say I love

What should I do? I am honestly lost and confused because I want to be with her but can't help to look and want other girls too!?

woo · May 28, 2008, 03:25 AM

Sounds like you guys are young, but always remember that losing you virginity to a guy is a big deal for woman these days and creats an amazing bond between the two of you.

You should simply just follow your heart and also let her know how you feel cause it sounds like you're both a little confused right now.

Good luck

woo

JBeaucaire · May 28, 2008, 12:21 PM

Dating is where you get to try things out, meet people, find out who you are with different types of girls, it is an important time. You need to take this decision seriously.

Dating is also supposed to be fun. The sex issue aside, the girl you love will not be the first. You are attracted to WOMEN and if you honestly feel you need to get out there and learn more about women and relationships and interacting, then you should do so without feeling slave to your affection to a single girl.

BUT...

At some point you will have to settle down and focus on the harder part of relationships with a single girl. You will need to practice putting someone else first and giving sacrificially. You WILL NEED to do this.

But is not the time for that? It sounds like you know it isn't that time yet.

If you are honest and decide you need to sow your oats, be honest with your girl:

"I care for you, but not enough at this point in my life to be monogamous. I'vre tried and it's not working. I hope you understand, but I'm going to date around for awhile and just be independent."

talaniman · May 28, 2008, 04:31 PM

what should I do? I am honestly lost and confused because I want to be with her but can't help to look and want other girls too!?

Time to be honest, and fess up, you aren't in love, your in lust, and until you can figure out the difference, stop filling these young girls heads with BS. Even though at the time you think its true.
You need to break this off, before you get involved with anyone else.