[cheesseball]

Me and this guy were going out for eight months and through those months we've got really close and I care about him a lot and I know he cares about me. We've had some ups and downs through our relationship but overall he's treated me very well. I couldn't ask for better right now,because I love this guy. But I broke up with him, and its been a month now. The reason why I broke up with him is because we were talking and I had brought up the fact that I want to loose more weight and he told me yah your fat but I like you the way you are, and he said that he don't want me to change. And so asked him if he liked fat girls. He said yah, that he didn't like skinny girls. So I told him "well before we was going out you liked my cousin alot and shes skinny" he said that he wasn't looking at her body he was looking at her eyes. So I asked him I was like "you think shes prettier than me dont you?" and he said yah staight out yah... that hurt my feelings so bad I started crying. I stopped talking to him for a month and am just now starting to talk to him again and I'm not sure if I should give him a second chance because I don't want to live with the fact of worrying if he's looking at my cousin when she's around or if he's looking at me... it hurts so bad... but I just don't know if I should let what we have go even though it bothers me so much. Should I just forgive him? Please help

[Fr_Chuck]

1. He should know and will learn when to keep his mouth shut. He on the other had sounds like he is being perfectly honest with you.

After he said he liked you the way you are, you should have stopped right there, not asking him about your cousin. If you did not want to make him lie, why ask him questions that will only hurt you.

Next guyes will look at all girls around them, the girl at the grocrey store, the girl at the gas station, and the girl walking down the street.

I think he should ask you to forgive him and you need to ask him to forgive you for pushing the issue also.

[southerngalps]

Taking him back might not be so good IF you will not be able to get over the things he has said. I actually think he should have not been so honest in this situation. He probably should have boosted up your esteem and not have said that your cousin was prettier, and YES you probably shouldn't have been so inquisitive. Do you think you can get over what he said?

[cheesseball]

taking him back might not be so good IF you will not be able to get over the things he has said. i actually think he should of not been so honest in this situation. he probably should of boosted up your esteem and not have said that your cousin was prettier, and YES you probably shouldn't have been so inquisitive. do you think you can get over what he said??

I don't know I think I'm starting to as I'm talking to him more and more but whenever I think about it or whenever I'm around my cousin it makes me really depressed and I think less of myself and I'm just so worried that that feeling wount go away. I didn't let what he said get in between my cousin... and I didn't tell her. But it still does in a way.
I think what hurts the most is the fact that he use to like her and after he said that sometimes I think he still does. And its hard for me to trust him. And plus I get so jelous now!

[southerngalps]

You'll just have to get over the issue you're having. I know it's hard, but if you want to be with him, you will have to trust that he doesn't like your cousin. Why did you guys get together after he had a thing for your cousin?

[cheesseball]

you'll just have to get over the issue you're having. I know it's hard, but if you want to be with him, you will have to trust that he doesn't like your cousin. why did you guys get together after he had a thing for your cousin??

She liked him but she was going out with his best friend already... it seems like every guy likes her and it used to be that a lot a guys liked me but its so weird it seems like no guys notice me now...
But I guess the reason why I started going out with him after I knew he liked her was because they never went out and me and him kind of connected in a way I thought. I just didn't want her to win this guy... I hope that doesn't sound stingy or something.

[strawberryboat]

On the road ahead, you will meet guys more handsome than him. And he would meet girls prettier than you. You both are able to accept the fact.
Ironically, many girls lose their love to those who are much less pretty than them. Love doesn't depend on a face or a figure.