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    smoakgrove Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 26, 2008, 03:40 PM
    2 generations of adult children mooching
    I am a 49 yr. old woman with a husband, a 16yr. Old dgt. And a 32 developmentally disabled daughter living, rent free, in my 79 yr. old mothers house along with 3 more adult daughters, one boyfriend. Two granddaughters and 3 dogs.
    My husband and I originally moved into my mothers home, rental, and made the house payments. One thing after another happened and we completely stopped making any kind of payment of rent to my mother. At that time we had 4 daughters living with us. That was 6 yrs. Ago. Now they are adults and another one and the boyfriend moved in.

    My question is: HOW DO I BREAK THIS MOOCHING CIRCLE??

    I want to get out of my mothers home so she can actually sell it, and I want my grown children to get their own home and grow up! How can I teach them this when I have set this example in their lives?
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    May 27, 2008, 10:07 AM
    How does your husband feel about this, you all have to be on board. What does Grandma say? Is she just to laid back to let everyone know she wants to sell, so you guys need to move out?
    It will be awfully hard, from what you say, you have been living rent free for six years... is that right?
    I suppose you give yourselves and the kids 60 days to find out what they and you are going to do. Make a goal and stick to it. Tell MOM that you are doing this for her own good and you can help get the place ready to sell for her. 60 days, make a goal and go...
    Be honest with the kids and tell them that you feel like we are all moochers and I don't want anyone or myself using my mother anymore, she doesn't deserve that!;) Good luck!

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