[Myth]

In all honesty I think your scared to be loved. I bet you feel as if nobody could love you for who you are and this man does. You know all of your own faults and so does he and he doesn't care so your trying to find fault in him. I did this through a couple of relationships. I finally learned that I needed to accept myself and love myself before I could love anyone else or allow them to love me. Now I tell everyone about my history and my past before they really get to know me and if they can't accept me for who I am and the baggage I have then I don't need them in my life. This man has accepted you and all of your faults, you just need to accept them yourself. Look in the mirror every time you walk past one and say to yourself "i'm a beautiful person just the way i am". I think it will help you a lot. Just my opinion though.

[Krs]

Krs, he knows how I feel and we've had a big fight about it (the fight was my fault) but we made up. He just kind of gives me a very sad look and sighs when I go off on one now....

DJ 'H' - I know he's not cheating, so I know I don't snoop for that reason. It's almost like I *want* to find something... It's like that 'car crash' mentality where you don't want to look, but you know you can't help it. And then if I do find anything, I feel sick, and then I feel numb.

I really need to stop doing this to myself, don't I? Easier said than done, that's all...

You have sort your problem out. Seems like this guy loves you so much and also probably very patient. Give him credit, you know he is not cheating, you know he loves, you are you causing pain to yourself. You only live once, and life is short, so please make the most of it with this man who seems to really care. Love him and cherish him - don't push him away. :)

[Kohoutek]

It's true, he does love me a lot. And he does accept me... I'm so sorry that I keep going on about it. I feel like a lot of people would kill to be in my situation. Maybe that's the problem. I guess in retrospect I have classic 'self confidence' issues. When I'm out with my friends I'm the life of the party, I get on with men easier than women so I don't worry about what the opposite sex think of me, but when it comes to my fiancé, that's my big insecurity. I just ache when I think of anything that means he might not love me, or might not want to be with me... And he's so quiet about his past, and I *know* this is because he doesn't feel it's relevant to where we are today, and not because he's hiding something, but just the fact that he doesn't talk about it makes me build it up to be something it's almost certainly not.

But aside from all of that, I really agree with almost everything that everybody has said, and I really appreciate your help at a time when I can't turn anywhere else for it.

[DJ 'H']

Hey you can always turn to us. We are always willing to help night or day. Your fiancée past probably is not a very happy one which is why he does not like going down that road.

My boyfriend Pete has never spoken about his past girlfriends etc accept when he has got drunk - things tend to come out when he is drunk, but he never remembers telling me any of it - so I try not to make an issue. He has not really had a proper girlfriend before me which is why he does not like to talk about it. So I would not press or worry too much. He is with you at the end of the day - if things changed somewhere down the line, you just have to accept it, deal with it and move on. But you two are obviously very much in love and if you don't get to grips soon then your relationship will fail. You are utting too much pressure on yourself and too much pressure on your partner.

You really need to try some relaxation techniques and take some time out for yourself. We all need to be able to function as singletons as well as having a partner. You need to remember who you are. You say that when you go out with friends you are yourself and you have confidence and don't care much what females think of you because most of friends are male. Well you and I very much alike. I have great confidence, the majority of my friends of Male and I don't give a crap what anyone thinks of me. I am the life and soul of any party (hence why I am a DJ) and I love being random.

I am like this with my boyfriend and my friends and family. I have always said that if no one likes me for who I am then **** them. If my boyfriend turned round tomorrow and tried to change me I would tell him where to go. I love him more than anything but if it came down to he did not like me for who I was then he would have to take a hike.

You partner loves you for the person you are - so instead of being someone else (someone you do not want to be) be yourself - be the person you partner fell in love with. Be at ease with yourself when you are with him xxx

[Krs]

Another reason as to why he may not talk to you about his past partners and ex girlfriends is that he knows what response or reaction who may have. Maybe he did it a few times or even just the once and he saw how obsessed you got about it and he probably sees no point in it esp as he surely don't care about them.

[DJ 'H']

To be honest your partners past does not matter - he is right. His past is his past. It's the present and furture that count.

[Krs]

The past is history, today is now and tomorrow is the future. And its now and the future you need to work on