[breezer]

My partners little girl is still living with her mother and I am worried about her. Her father is the most devoted dad and loves his little girl more than anything and wants her to live with us full time because her mother seems to be losing the plot.she has started by going to the police and accusing him of hurting her and telling everyone about it even though this is the most furtherest from the truth and he would never lay a finger on her. His 5 year old is constantly sick and is given chocolates and lollies for getting dressed in the morning and for going to the toilet. She is also bought everything she asks for just to get her on side. She never plays with her and her babysitter is the TV. She is not eating properly except on the nights she comes over for a few hours and she isn't allowed to stay over ever if she won't eat breakfast, lunch or dinner at home she will be given chocolate and lollies instead. Her sister wants to have her committed to get some help to.she is poisioning her daughters mind by telling her mummy is so sad and miserable and wants to kill herself, her 5 year old is now repeating all these things to her friends at school saying she wants to die and go to heaven and I'm worried that she is going to hurt herself and her daughter. I don't know how to help and my partner is not sure what he can do as his lawyer said to wait until all other matters have been settled through court first but I think this is wrong. It is breaking my heart to see this happen to her and he is so upset.

[tjplayer]

Sorry to hear about your situation, if it were me I would try and get the sister and your partner to go to child protective services( usually at your social services) together and tell them all and your worries they will then get involved and talk to child, do home studies, and if an immediate threat will remove child from home immediately. A quicker way would be to report her and have her committed. This either can do because of the open things she has said about wanting to die. She is a threat to herself and maybe others, for this she would be at least held for observation. I would also see about getting the daughter into some counseling, For her health and also that away there is a record of what is going on with that little girl. Hope this helps and I will be praying for your family. Please remember this is just my opinion and I do not know all the situation. Use your judgement but please seek help for the little girls sake.

[deedeeowens]

I encourage you to document everything that happens and everything that the child told you. It will be helpful to you later if things end up in court. The more factual documentation (things that you can prove) the better. Try to avoid a lot of heresay. I've seen children tell one person one thing, and someone else something completely different. It isn't so much that they're trying to lie. They are just very driven to please whoever they are talking to and meet their expectation. Sometimes the absolute truth doesn't come out when the only thing you're relying on is the child's word. I'm not a professional, and I can only speak from my own experience with parents and children, but from what you've said it sounds like CPS should be called in to make sure the child is safe and to determine if the mother is stable enough to be responsible for her.