[cutebabyta]

I'm 15 and so is my boyfriend, we've been going out since April 3rd 08' and we don't get to see each other a lot because we don't go to the same skool and don't live by each other. We used to text each other everyday and call each other cute little nicknames and stuff. But then he said that he thinks we should break up.. so we did and then a couple of hours later we got back together and he said he waz sorry and that he made a mistake and that he really likes me. Since our break we haven't talked unless I text him and I asked him why he hasn't made contact with me and he said he's been busy. We don't even talk like were together anymore its almost like were friends again and I told him that if he doesn't care and doesn't like me anymore and didn't want to talk to me then just say it and not drag it out. When I told him this he said that he still cared and that he still liked me but all he has been saying is that he has been "busy". Well what I don't understand iz why would you get back together with me and then just ACT like you don't care or like me anymore... :confused: I don't want to miss understand him and break up with him and then regret it later. Please help

[jiltedgirl]

Well it sounds like you're not happy either way. Would you rather stay in a relationship, which he is too "busy" for? Or would you rather end it now, hurt for a bit, but at least get over him in the long run?

It' s your choice and I think you know which option you prefer.

[jolienoire]

Well, here its only been a few months and things are already not starting so well, I would say follow your heart, you are still young, and don't try to understand him or his intentions go by his actions and follow your heart, because if he is acting this way only after a few months, imagine later down the road. Right now at your age try to focus on your goals, and your future for now.

[JBeaucaire]

This is tough. You can gain so much either way you choose.

1) Stay in this distant relationship. In this situation you learn self-restraint and patience and the importance for meaningful, low-stress communication.

But you don't get to practice reading body language, holding hands and walking to classes together, sitting in the bleachers and leaning on each other on bad days.

2) Break it off. In this situation you are free to practice dating and finding out the dynamics of dealing with people day to day, how to gauge what you do/say and how it affects others.

On the other hand, you're more tempted into risky behaviors and situations that can get you into real trouble. Patience is a real problem, self-control often ignored completely.
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It's a tough call. You need to decide what it is you want to be working on in your life right now. Make that decision WITHOUT him in mind, then honor that choice. Even if it hurts, doing the right thing is a win. That's the definition of growing up.

[talaniman]

I think you need more than text messages, and that's all he can do, because of the distance, and being so busy, so I hope you can be friends, and consider someone a lot closer to spend time with. Even adults have trouble with long distance relationships.