[ryanquak1]

So this is what is going on. I am a fifteen year old teenager who would like to move in with my mother. My father took me away from her when I was about two years old. I will admit from what I have been told it was a bad house to live in. I have six half brothers and three half sisters. One of my half brothers was put up for adoption before I knew him. Anyway, there was drug use, violence, people getting arrested, etc. This was way back when everybody loved with my mother and there was hell at the house. Currently she is living in an apartment with one of my brother who is eighteen. He is not a bad "adult" he works forty hours a week. My twenty one year old sister also lives with my mother they split rent. She had two children of her own at the ages of two and four months. Since I was moved out all of the violence and such has subsided. Since my step mother has moved in about three years ago me and my father do not get along. We argue a lot, and do not have connection. I am not able to talk to him or my step mother. My father is not the type of person to talk to. I do not feel wanted I am such an environment and would like to move into a place with more family and am able to talk to somebody and feel wanted. My mother claims that she can not do anything about it because of a law that was passed. I live in NH if that helps. What is the true answer and what can I do?

[molick2003]

Listen no body can give a right answer for this but I can tell you this, if you have lived with your dad all thes years its perfectly normal for your age for this to happen, its just part of life.your dad knows and loves you more than your mum.to you mum you are a stranger,and if you go live with her you will get more problems because you both don't understand each other! your Dad knows you and the silence is to get both of you on the right road.if you accept him as he is,what he wants and your step mum, he will accept you,and understand you if you tell him what you think,about everything, he may not show any emotion but he will feel this and love you more and try to be a better dad for you.take care molick

[JudyKayTee]

So this is what is going on. I am a fifteen year old teenager who would like to move in with my mother. My father took me away from her when I was about two years old. I will admit from what I have been told it was a bad house to live in. I have six half brothers and three half sisters. One of my half brothers was put up for adoption before I knew him. Anyway, there was drug use, violence, people getting arrested, and etc. This was way back when everybody loved with my mother and there was hell at the house. Currently she is living in an apartment with one of my brother who is eighteen. He is not a bad "adult" he works forty hours a week. My twenty one year old sister also lives with my mother they split rent. She had two children of her own at the ages of two and four months. Since I was moved out all of the violence and such has subsided. Since my step mother has moved in about three years ago me and my father do not get along. We argue a lot, and do not have connection. I am not able to talk to him or my step mother. My father is not the type of person to talk to. I do not feel wanted I am such an environment and would like to move into a place with more family and am able to talk to somebody and feel wanted. My mother claims that she can not do anything about it because of a law that was passed. I live in NH if that helps. What is the true answer and what can I do?

Is your mother perhaps talking about the Order that awarded custody of you to your Dad and not a State law?

In order to get a change in custody someone would have to petition the Court for a change in custody. There would be a hearing and custody could either be changed or not changed depending on what the Court feels is the best situation for you.

At 15 the Court will listen to you and your wishes will carry some weight but you cannot decide where to live.

Is there someone else you could talk to, perhaps a relative, someone at school, a clergyman if for no other reason than to have an outlet?