[srulik86]

Hey, OK so for those of you that already know, I've just been dumped my girlfriend for being a paranoid bastard... through text! She said 'i can't have someone just freaking out on me. We have no future 2gther'... I said 'please don't throw al this away after everything just like that, lets have a couple of days space and time to calm down' and have heard nothing from her since. What do I do? I don't want to get in contact with her oz that will just make her more angry but I want her to just talk to me. I'm going through stages, sometimes I'm OK and think this really was for the best, other times I freak out and realise how much I love this girl and how I can't be without her. I'm going mad here. I've been getting out, meeting new people, seeing friends, breaking routine, and not staying in pining... but its so hard, because whenever I'm alone all I can think about is her and how after everything we've been through... and we've been through a lot, she ends it all with a simple text. In the past she has mucked me around so much and she knows this and I forgave her because I knew that we should be 2gther and wanted to give her the chance... but now she won't give me a chance and my heart is broken here.

[Chery]

Wow, do you always talk and/or text like this? Did you 'hear' yourself and do you stop and listen to others?

OK, so from what I gathered, you two were meant for each other. Did her creator put your brand on her when she was born? Hey, even branded cows stray away from their owners when they feel they are not being treated right. AND we don't own our partners in life!

She has made the choice to leave you and start a new life. I don't think texting was appropriate, but she must have had a reason for not telling you face-to-face and you will have to accept this.

As you said she 'mucked' around and you forgave her, but she obviously feels that you 'mucked' too and is not willing to forgive and forget anymore. She has a mind of her own, and there is nothing we say or do here will change that. Nothing you do in the future will change her mind, so please accept the fact that you will have to live your life without her and start over.

You are not alone in this, so read the 'stickies' in this Relationships section and start comprehending that you belong to a club with membership of millions of others in this world - and there is 99%-100% chance of survival. It is not a terminal disease. It's just like a scratch or burn that takes time to heal.

You stated that you went through 'phases' - maybe you have not given yourself enough time and maybe the realization that she's done with you has not sunk in yet.

So, keep working on yourself, you'll get there eventually - Give It Time!

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2792662,

I understand the hurt, I don't understand all these posts. Don't you agree with the advice already given?