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Long distance. Is it a mistake to try?
I'm one of those people who has always said I'm not going to do the whole long distance thing, just because I believe they don't work. But my boyfriend who I have been with for over a year is going to college in 2 months. And we've talked about it like months ago and I said we shouldn't stay together once he left. But now that its getting closer, I've been thinking abou it a lot, and I really want us to stay together. I completely regret having said that. But I don't want him to miss out in the whole college experience, and I feel like if we stayed together he'd miss out a little. We haven't said I love you yet just because I didn't feel comfortable saying it. I just didn't want to say something I didn't mean, and I felt we were to youg to acually love each other being only 17, and 18. But I really care about him and I feel like I could love him, and that maybe I do. I haven't talked to him about it yet but I will soon. But Anyway I'm sort of just wondering if I should try it out, if it could possibly work.
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I think you both would be better off to let each other go for now.
You are so young, and have so much yet to experience, why put the pressure on yourselves to remain loyal to each other, when you admit you can't really say that you are even in love yet. If the two of you are meant to be together, then that's how it will probably turn out, I just don't see any benefit to either of you in "waiting" for each other at this point. |
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Honestly, those distance relationships reek havoc on the most mature, and committed couples, so if your not that close yet (1 year is still strangers to my thinking) then I can't recommend it for you at all. At some point the distance has to be closed. Talk it over honestly with him.
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9/10 don't work. As tal said, even the most committed it doesn't work. If you end it no one will be hurt. Trust me. One side will realise its too hard to do it, or maybe, just maybe you both will realise you can't stand to be without each other. Out of sight- one of you will be out of mind at least if not both.
Good luck- sorry for being cynical but similar situation but I was in deep with a girl for 4 years and was only gone for 4 and half months. |
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