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tiredofthisstuf · May 15, 2008, 08:35 AM

What's going to happen if I runaway at the age of 17 in the state of Wisconsin will the cop come and try and find a 17 year old with only a half a year to a year left to live at home? PLEASE answer quickly!! I'm desperate I need to know VERY VERY VERY soon. Okay for all the people who looked at this and didn't respond let me tell you something's and why I want out, since you don't feel this question matters, k?
Okay here goes, My mom and I have never gotten along I've moved in with other family members because of the things that happen between us. When I was only 8 yrs. Old I was raising her other children, I was cleaning the whole house and I was getting hit around everyday. I have scar from my mother and she would tell me if anyone at school ask my sister and I were fighting and I hit my head on the coffee-table. After I was 12 or 13 yrs. Old I got sick of being a slave/step-mother to my own brother and sisters/ and getting hit so when I visited my family for the summer I told them I wanted to stay with them and they allowed it for 3 and a half years and then everyone thought my mom was doing better and she wanted me back I said I didn't want to go but they said your mom is better it will be fine and yet again I'm miserable I'm crying every night during the week I can't do anything and then she sits there on her and my brother and sister and I clean the whole house while she goes to sleep... I want out help or not...
-Me

Okay if you runaway at the age of 17 and aren't found until your 18 years old can they do anything about it?? And if you runaway at age 17 and they find you 3-6 months before your 18 and they really do anything since your so close to 18?? Please give me some answers... -Me

Okay I went to the courthouse a few days ago to see what my opition were when I turned 17 because there has to be some type of opition for someone getting mental abuse, absolutely emotionally unstable, this is what I mean by emotionally unstable,I'm crying ALL the Time I'm getting yelled at left and right nothing I do is ever good enough I just don't know what to do anymore,but they said I have no opitions in the state of Wisconsin that I have to deal with the mental abuse until the day I turn 18 years old and if I go another year I'll be so absolutely emotionally unstable, I'm afraid of what will happen if I'm there another year.I mean I'm afraid of how my emotions and everything is going to hold up... I need legal advice I need to know if there are any other options I have... PLEASE... that's all I'm asking. -Me

My living situation is I live with my mom. I'm getting yelled at everyday, I crying all the time nothing I do is right sometimes she just looks at me and says I can't f***ing stand you. It horrible I can't explan it all... if you want to know the rest go to the first post I ever did.

My living situation is I live with my mom. I'm getting yelled at everyday, I crying all the time nothing I do is right sometimes she just looks at me and says I can't f***ing stand you. It horrible I can't explan it all...

ScottGem · May 15, 2008, 08:36 AM

Depends on how much your parents pursue it.

Sonador101 · May 15, 2008, 09:40 AM

Os everything the same? If so call the police, no I am not kidding this is mayjor bad stuff going on here, find help I think it would be easier to o calll the police and see if there's some legal ting you can do, I know in some states you can get a legal separation from your family at age 16 so check it out. And I am very sorry for what happened to you, just remember not everyone is like your mom, and you don't have to screw up like her.
Hope everything works out
Ps so sorry

achampio21 · May 15, 2008, 09:52 AM

Do you have a job? Can you finacially care for yourself? Do you know how to manage money? Could you finish school living on your own and working a prt-time or full-time job? Does your father treat you better and take care of you or just doesn't make you do anything or follow any rules when you are there? Do you have a juvenile record(have you been arrested, ran away several times before)? You need to ask yourself all these questions. And then plan out what you are going to do step by step. Because a rash quick decision will only get you right back where you don't want to be or somewhere worse. Save up money for an apartment. Look on the net(since you have the time) for lawyers that represent minors that want to emancipate themselves. Typically you have to show that you have a steady income and that you are responsible enough to take care of yourself and make good decisions (no criminal record). Running away in the middle of the night with an overnight bag on your shoulder and no idea where you are going or what you are going to do is not smart and not going to get you what you want. I fyou don't have a job, get one. That puts you at home with your mother less and gives you income to put away for that glorious day you turn 18. Then you will be working and getting paid for it too and you won't be home with mommy. Just some ideas. Hope they help and good luck.

JudyKayTee · May 15, 2008, 10:55 AM

Originally Posted by Sonador101

os everything the same? if so call the police, no i am not kidding this is mayjor bad stuff going on here, find help i think it would be easier to o calll the police and see if theres some legal ting you can do, i know in some states you can get a legal seperation from your family at age 16 so check it out. and i am very sorry for what happend to you, just remember not everyone is like your mom, and you don't have to screw up like her.
hope everything works out
ps so sorry

This may be very supportive but it is incorrect legal information - there is no such thing as a legal separation from your family. Do you mean emancipation?

JudyKayTee · May 15, 2008, 11:00 AM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

Depends on how much your parents pursue it.

Scott is right (of course) - if no one reports you missing the Police won't be looking for you.

As far as emancipation is concerned (someone who answered you brought up the subject): there are no emancipation laws in Wisconsin. There ARE terminations or parental rights laws if you are neglected/abused/in danger.

You would have to petition the Court, document the dangers/abuse/neglect - according to my research someone can then be appointed your guardian OR if no one steps forward you are a ward of the Court and placed in a group home until age 18.

Same applies if you are a run away and found and no one steps forward or the custodial parents claims you are behind that person's control - group home until age 18.

Is there nowhere else you can go, no one you can talk to?

Fr_Chuck · May 15, 2008, 06:12 PM

Yes with Scott if no one reports you gone, no police looking, if someone calls the police every day, they will have you on every hot sheet across the nation.

But if you are being abused report it to the dept of children and family services

twinkiedooter · May 23, 2008, 07:59 AM

You are still 17 and not 18. Until you are legally 18 they can return you to your home every time you run away..

JudyKayTee · May 23, 2008, 09:02 AM

Originally Posted by tiredofthisstuf

Okay if you runaway at the age of 17 and arent found until your 18 years old can they do anything about it??? and if you runaway at age 17 and they find you 3-6 months before your 18 and they really do anything since your so close to 18??? Please give me some answers.... -Me

Yes, until you are 18 you can be returned to your home or placed in foster care - or a facility - as a runaway. Of course, someone has to report you as missing before this happens.

I know your living situation is rough - when you say "run away" do you have someone to stay with or would you be on the street?

If you just go and are safe but let your family know where you are there is a good possibility your family will go to Court to try to force you to return and that very well could take more than the 3-6 months before you turn 18.

I am in no way encouraging you to run away - just telling you legally what the options are.

Whatever you do - you MUST be safe! I know you've tried a lot of things but is there no one you can talk this over with, family, counsellors, someone - ?

MsMewiththat · May 23, 2008, 09:12 AM

Please, Please, Please don't runaway. Your online so you are aware of how to research different things. Do yourself a favor and get some help. Look up Runaway counselors or teen advice counselors in your area. GET SOME HELP! STAY SAFE. There are plenty of very horrible people out there and you need help from someone that you can trust. If you have to go to the police. You have to stay safe.

JudyKayTee · May 23, 2008, 09:21 AM

Originally Posted by tiredofthisstuf

Okay if you runaway at the age of 17 and arent found until your 18 years old can they do anything about it??? and if you runaway at age 17 and they find you 3-6 months before your 18 and they really do anything since your so close to 18??? Please give me some answers.... -Me

There is a wonderful youth shelter in Racine, WI - friend of mine was a social worker there at one time. They ask very few questions, they keep you safe, they try to work things out if things CAN be worked out - they are non-judgmental, youth oriented, do good work, are funded by the United Way.

There is also a shelter in Madison.

Have you looked into something like that? You are so close to 18 that you have more flexibility than someone, say 15, who has 3 years before majority.

If you want to take this off the public thread, OK to private message me - although I prefer it stay on the board but don't post private, indentifying info - OK?

Fr_Chuck · May 23, 2008, 09:42 AM

All posts combined. Please try to keep one question line under one thread so everyone can know the entire story.

What happens, normally nothing but then normally you are found.

Sonador101 · May 23, 2008, 10:43 AM

I know in some states you can get legally separation from your family, sort of like disownment but the other way around, I f your family situation is that bad maybe you should loo into it

JudyKayTee · May 23, 2008, 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by Sonador101

i know in some states you can get legally seperation from your family, sorta like disownment but the other way around, i f your family situation is that bad maybe you should loo into it

You have posted this twice before and I have asked twice before which States "you know you can get legally separated" from your family because in my experience (and education) there is no such thing as a legal separation from your parents.

Are you talking about emancipation which I think has been addressed in this thread - ?