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j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 01:51 PM

My husband and I are going to be trying for a kid in the next 6 months. We've been using condoms for protection but I hear getting on birth control can help you have a baby faster. There isn't a history of people having issues getting pregnant in my family. Both my mother and sister had 3 healthy kids. Is there a best way? I really want to be a Mom and want to try to avoid the stress of not getting pregnant. Thanks.

Rockstar714 · May 13, 2008, 02:33 PM

Well stop using condoms and try. Birth control works as just that BIRTH CONTROL and they call it that for a reason... so stop with the condoms and then you probably have a chance. That's how most people get pregnant is without protection...

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 02:35 PM

I've just heard that getting on birth control regulates your period and makes it easier. We want to wait about 6 months because of planning but if getting on birth control to regulate my period will make it easier then I'll need to do that now. Thanks.

Rockstar714 · May 13, 2008, 02:41 PM

I'd talk to your doctor about the birth control thing, not just go on hear say. :)

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 02:46 PM

Good advise. I think I'm just getting paranoid about something that isn't even an issue yet. I'm just the planning type and I want to be able to know exactly when I'll get pregnant so I can plan accordingly. My husband tells me that I need to just relax and enjoy the unpredictability of it. I'll try to chill and talk to a doctor if it becomes an issue.

Rockstar714 · May 13, 2008, 02:50 PM

Yes, you do need to relax. Stress can cause inconsistencies in periods, not being able to get pregnant, etc.

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 02:55 PM

*sigh* I'll try. I'll go drink some tea and chill. (hard with Texas weather) You rock. Thanks. Don't know why hearing it from a perfect stranger makes it kind of sink in but it helps.

JoeCanada76 · May 13, 2008, 03:13 PM

Stress and trying too hard can actually delay the process of getting pregnant.

No birth control, and no condoms. No time constraint. Pregnancies can happen with the first try in some people or in others up to a year or more before getting pregnant.

Best wishes.

kp2171 · May 13, 2008, 03:43 PM

Dear Lord... no... birth control isn't going to make getting pregnant easier later... its not uncommon for women to have unpredictable periods for months after getting off it.

If you are interested in being a mother, id say use protection and track your cycles. Also, understand the things that increase fertility for you and your man, which is mostly "good living"... eating well, exercising, no smoking, no drugs, limiting stress, limiting illness, avoiding pollution, etc.

So... if you want to wait 6 mo, that's fine... track your cycle, use birth control, and "modify" sex when you are most fertile, meaning oral or other stim if you aren't ready yet.

And once you decide you are "ready" for a child, understand that you need to be patient... most conceive within two years... something like 95% if I'm not mistaken... and a large proportion conceives within a year...

So... be healthy, track your cycle, and enjoy the ride... don't try to fret month to month about "failure" to get pregnant.

Any medical issues in your history? PIDS? Endometriosis? How old are you roughly?

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 04:01 PM

Originally Posted by kp2171

any medical issues in your history? PIDS? endometriosis? how old are you roughly?

I'm 23 years old. My sister had endometriosis but not until after she had her 3 kids and had her tubes tied. The doctor who did her historectomy (sp?) said it was caused from getting her tubes tied and that I shouldn't do that. Is this something that I should get specifically tested for? She is my half sister so I don't know if that changes anything. Other than that there are no other medical issues in my family... besides a little anxiety ;) thus the planning thing I have going. Is it true when you start trying you should only have sex every other day at the most to make sure the sperm doesn't get weak. Another thing I heard that could be bogus. Thanks for your help.

Fr_Chuck · May 13, 2008, 04:19 PM

Ok, are you really 23,? I am sorry but this really sounds like some young kid esp when they don't know about birth control

Ok, I will explain this plain, birth control stops you from having a baby, while it is not 100 percent effective, it makes it very very hard to have a baby, while it does regulate your period some it stops you from getting pregnant,

Using a condom also stops most of the sperm so it lowers your chance of getting pregnant.

What you need to do is have sex withough any form of birth control.

If you work though your doctor, they will help you determine the closest time to have sex, and yes it does take one to two days to build up

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 04:30 PM

I know the purpose of birth control is to not get pregnant. I was just asking about the possibility of them helping getting me regulated. Thank you. :)

J_9 · May 13, 2008, 05:31 PM

Originally Posted by j_troubadour

I know the purpose of birth control is to not get pregnant. I was just asking about the possibility of them helping getting me regulated. thank you. :)

Are your periods not regular now?

trying4babykirk · May 13, 2008, 09:46 PM

j_troubadour: Just advice for you, me and my husband have been trying for 10 months now and the whole planning thing will it doesn't work that great for everyone. It can take healthy couples up to 12 months to become pregnant. My husband and I are both students and we are almost done so we thought we would plan for our little bundle of joy to come during our summer break before graduating, well that didn't happen. If I can give you any advice, it is to relax and just enjoy baby making and the time with your hubby! It make take 1 month and it may take 1 year, you never know. But remember your not the only one out there that wants a baby and wants it when you would like to plan it. LOL! There are a lot of wonderful women just like us on askmehelpdesk willling to gvie you advice and encouragement!! Good Luck to you and your hubby and ya'lls baby making time! BE PATIENT... I know I am learning a lot about being patient!

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 10:15 PM

My periods are pretty regular. I used to start pretty much on the same day each month (a day before or a day after) but now it's just down to like a 5 day time frame.

I know despite my desire to plan everything that I can't plan this down to the day and a lot of it is going to be trusting God and letting him decide but I just wanted to see if there is a "easy way" and apparently it changes from woman to woman. I've heard a lot of do this and do that from all sorts of crazy sources and I figured this was a good way to get answers. Thank you.

trying4babykirk · May 13, 2008, 10:27 PM

I am glad you are trusting God. Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have created for you" declared the Lord. God has a plan for each and everyone of us. I pray every day that God gives us our little blessing sooner than later.

Yeah I think if there was an "easy way" no one would be on here and we would all be sleeping peacefully with our little ones. LOL... wish it was that way! Good Luck!

tawnynkids · May 13, 2008, 10:27 PM

While birth control can regulate your periods you could end up pregnant and taking birth control without realizing it. Definitely what you don't want.

The best advice really to getting pregnant is RELAX and don't "try" to get pregnant. For those who otherwise have no reason for not being able to conceive, stressing over it month after month is the biggest reason they don't get pregnant. Using an online ovulation calendar can give you the best dates for "trying" but you should really just relax as much as possible. You could try one like this: Ovulation Calendar

p.s. I am no expert but I do have six kids, so it isn't like I have no idea what I am talking about either. :)

trying4babykirk · May 13, 2008, 10:27 PM

Also you might try fertilityfriend.com it's a good website to chart your cycles and your bbt

trying4babykirk · May 13, 2008, 10:30 PM

Originally Posted by tawnynkids

p.s. I am no expert but I do have six kids, so it isn't like I have no idea what I am talking about either. :)

Just curious is it easier to get pregnant the second, third, forth, etc. times than the first?

tawnynkids · May 13, 2008, 10:38 PM

Physically I am not sure if it is easier at any point. Mentally I would say easier the more you have as long as you learn about your body. Know the best times possible in your cycle, pick months when you have the least amount of stresses on you, etc and you have better chances.

However, in all honesty I didn't "try" for each of them either. There were a few blessed surprises!