[anet]

Need help from player’s husband. Is it possible to hurt someone you love? Hurting in a sense, looking for a reason to fight so that you can stay late at night. If yes, why? Do you think the woman loves you more when you are not that around? What is it in your mind? Or are you guys just being selfish? Also most women including me won’t mind spending lots of time with husband. But why does some man need their space a lot? Why is it so much fun for you with your buddies but not with your wife? Does it mean that you don’t love your wife that much?

Also why your player anyway? Do you think you get more attention that way?

[Fr_Chuck]

Men who are players don't really love any of the women they are with, they may have sex (make love) but they merely love thierself and their selfish pleasures

[mustard_seed]

I think it's all about the lack of boundaries. They were not raise with a sense of what belongs to them and what belongs to others. They want theirs', mine & yours' too! The Player also lacks responsibility and needs to be admired by SEVERAL women to feel validated as a worthy man.

Men hate rejection but become used to it since most women respect themselves enough not to be considerer as 'loose'. Females say NO -- it is rare for a man to speak these words. SO, when a man finds himself desirable to women, the ego steps BOLDLY forward.

Here is what you have to look forward to if you stay with this man:

He enters the room, stops and poses (everyone knows at least one idiot like this--LOL). He's standing there looking as if we have been breathlessly awaiting his arrival, but we have not. He is just silly looking and has no idea how to carry himself as a 'real' man does. He is faking his way through life without a hint or a clue. We greet him since most old Players are usually the life of the party--real jokesters.

It's really pathetic as he ages and muscle has turned to fat. His belly now hangs almost as low as his testicles. His wife is at home watching the Shopping Network & he's out watching the younger women who are now (themselves) 50 + years.

The wife has the need to wear every piece of jewelry she owns ALL AT THE SAME TIME. She has found solace and worth in gold and platinum. She wants to show you what her man can afford to buy her. On rare occasions, she is allowed to accompany him on one of his outings. Usually at these events it is made known that, "YOU MAY BRING YOUR WIVES only.", which is Player language for "Leave your mistress home." The two of them are a perfect match of stupidity and wasted youth.

[simoneaugie]

Men need to have their guy-space, otherwise how can they miss you? Some go out into the garage and work on projects, some join their friends for a game, some zone into video games. That's a need men have.

When in a committed relationship, that need must be balanced with attention to the relationship. When the two (relationship vs guy space) are in constant conflict, the couple needs to talk about compromise. A mature man will listen and suggest ways that both partners can have their needs met. A mature woman sets boundaries for herself, listens and suggests ways to have both of their needs met. Together, they come up with a plan or two to try.

An immature man stages a fight with his significant other so that the conversation cannot occur. Then he can get his needs met without dealing with the relationship at all. This is not a "relationship." He is using and abusing his partner. I would hope that she is not washing his socks while he plays.