[cutie08]

I'm not happy anymore
I love my mom and my family so much but they all hate me literally. My mom has tod me that she does not want me around in her life anymore that I just make her life hell and all this and it kills me cause I try so so hard to impress her I really do. And I have meant this amazing guy and he has helped me with a lot of things he has made me keepm my grades up I want froma d and f student to a and be student and she still sits here and tells me my grades are bad and that I'm a failure. And now she wants to keep me from seeing my boyfriend bacuse I came home from school sick today I had a fever of 101 and I felt real dizzy and light headed and she just called me and yelled at me telling me how much she hates me and things like that it kills me when she says those things to me I love her so much and I try so hard and my boyfriend he is the only thing in my life that is good I love him so much and I know he loves me too I don't know what to do anymore I don't know how to make her proud of me what should I do?

[MsMewiththat]

How old are you sweetie?
I want to tell you that no matter how your mom is choosing to express her frustration right now, SHE LOVES YOU! Keep working really hard to get your grades up and keep them up. Your Mom may not know how you feel and it would be helpful if you asked her for some of her time so you could explain to her, exactly what you just wrote. Tell her how sorry you are and how much you love her and need her love. Secondly, listen to her. Sometimes boyfriends come along and we think they are the best part of our lives but they are really just giving you the attention that you are looking for. Please post back how things are going. I wish the best for you.

[MommyLeah]

It sounds like your mom may have some issues that she is taking out on you. I know it is hard cause you are young but your mom is just a person, with flaws. I am not saying she is right for how she treats you, I think she is very wrong, but she obviously has a hard time excepting you may leave her or you may be better at things then her, or she may feel like putting you down will make you work harder. Personally, it sounds like she doesn't want you to be happy because she isn't, from the fact that she doesn't want you to see the boy who has improved yourself esteem. Did she get harsher on you as you became more confident in your life? Since I don't know your mom or her side of it, it is hard to say. Maybe you could try to be there for her. Ask her how she is doing, what you could do for her. When she puts you down stand tall and love her more. Let her know that she will not be able to push you out of her life. She loves you, I don't know how a mother cannot love their child, some people are afraid to love because they are afraid of getting hurt. My husband grandmother is this way. She is always pushing away the family and saying mean things. We just found out that she hasn't forgiven her mother for dying when she was a kid(12 years old). She is now in her 70's. Who knew people could be bitter for so long. Anyway, she has an abandonment issue. So she tries not to love. This may not be your mothers problem, but maybe you can find it and work with her. Well those are just my thoughts! Good luck! You are loved here! There will be other post that may help you more.