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sweet_as_cherry · May 3, 2008, 12:00 AM

Well I had a boyfriend for 1 and 1/2... well we broke up and we know have about 4 months that we don't talk. He did many hurtful things to me but in his mind he never did. Well it was his birthday and I bought him a cake but told his friend to say it was him that bought it not me. My friend accidentally told him I had bought that cake and he said it made him sick to his stomach to know that I bought it. He said that he can't stand me because I have been acting crazy and in his opinion ridiculous. In my opinion he thinks this because the week before we and a bunch of our driends were in a party and I was dancing with many guys and drinking and having a good time. Nothing out of the ordinary dancing and having fun. I can't deny that I still have feelings for him, but he acts like he doesn't and even has this little stupid girlfriend who is 2 young and slutty and which he is always denying( everyone including his parents and his best friends say I was the perfect girlfriend) . My question is if he doesn't like me anymore why does he care what I do and why does it bother him so much to the point that he says he can't stand to see me.? please giv sum opinionsss:confused: :confused: :confused:

justcurious55 · May 3, 2008, 12:04 AM

Why are you still hanging around him if you guys broke up and he says he doesn't want to see you? Maybe you should leave him alone

thegreatestviz · May 3, 2008, 12:17 AM

Hey... if you have broken up why care what he feels about you.you should carry on with your own life.
It might be possible that he might still have feelings for you but keeping it away.

Well if you care for him then why not tell him.if you are not interested then get another guy or something.. just chill out.

sweet_as_cherry · May 3, 2008, 12:23 AM

I did leave him alone, like I said we don't talk but there are a lot of unsettled feelings.. dat I would like to figure out. I'm definitely not going to be the one to approach him first

thegreatestviz · May 3, 2008, 12:32 AM

Don't approach tim first because its not your fault you know
If you let him know about your unsettelled feelings he may not care at all and it might hurt you further... so relax and go with the flow... :)

BebeBru · May 3, 2008, 12:32 AM

Sometimes it can be extremely difficult to lose all of the feelings you have for someone. A break up doesn't necessarily mean zero feelings or interest for someone, but things just didn't work out. Although it may hurt now, it will only get better. Nothing is worse than a broken heart, but you need to move on as best as you can. Hang out with girlfriends, pick up a hobby, exercise, read a good book, and learn to be independent. He has obviously somewhat gotten over it, but also might have this new girl to rub it in your face. Either way, he doesn't seem that worthy of your time and stress. The more he sees that you don't care, the more it will eat his heart out. And remember that there is always a reason that your past never made it to your future.

sweet_as_cherry · May 3, 2008, 12:43 AM

Is funny how we both do the same, I ignore him and he ignores me. He thinks I act ridicules when I dance and have fun and don't care if his there or not... dat kind of hurts to know this from the person you care about . He even told my friend to tell me I look like the most ridiculest person ever...

thegreatestviz · May 3, 2008, 12:48 AM

If he did that you tell his best friend to go and tell him that he's the biggest jerk alive... by the way how far I've understood either he hates you very much or he hates himself for loving you a lot..

sweet_as_cherry · May 3, 2008, 12:55 AM

Well he has absolutely no reason to hate me because I was such a good girl to him... cook for him, help him with everything he needed.. I I don't see a reason why he should hate me.. but as soon as I started to have fun on my own he sayd I'm acting ridicules and that he can't stand to see me

thegreatestviz · May 3, 2008, 01:02 AM

Well then he's in love with someone else because its pretty silly to give an excuse that for dancing and all its ridiculus and he can't stand it

JBeaucaire · May 3, 2008, 09:10 AM

First, Cherry, it's really not very hard to spell out words like "that" and "this". You write very well and express yourself clearly, except on a couple of words. Write out your thoughts like this isn't a text message, OK?

As for your situation... Sorry to say it, but the problem here isn't really why he does what he does, it's why you spend any time caring about it.

I understand you two had something, but now you don't. As a girl you will simply never understand why a guy does what he does, and a guy who no longer likes you often feels perfectyly justified STILL voicing his opinions about you. What can you do? Nothing.

Well, you can laugh about it, behind his back, to his face, no matter WHAT HE SAYS, you just find it so amusing. Give him an indefensible "Bless your little heart" and move on. He will have no power over you.

But that takes some stamina. You can do it.

I promise this will continue to hurt, so your only recourse is to be the bigger person... and perhaps be the first one to move on to the next serious relationship. You win by living a better life, being unaffected by his childishness, and sweetly responding to him whenever interactions are unavoidable.

Good luck.