[burgard]

My husbands youngerbrother is moving in with us.and he's brought a friend down from another state, my husband got them a job at his company and tells me they won't be living with us long. I want to give it a chance but I don't want and conflicts to arise in my marriage. I can already see some sittuations that might arrise, they are 21 and we are 28. Any sugestions?

[startover22]

I have a suggestion. Make sure your hubby gives a time limit and some boundries to both of them. And stick to them. He should be making sure they are respectful, at 21 guys can be in the "having fun" mode. This is your husbands responsibility, tell him so and if he can be a good man and take careof it. Good luck!

[Fr_Chuck]

I would have a better suggestion, don't, pay their first month rent at an apartment, pay their rent at a weekly rental, just don't let them move in.
Esp if they have a "friend" also. You do not need to become a rooming house, and if they never come in, they will not have to be kicked out latter. After your best this or that is stolen, missing, or broken, and after you have to give them a 30 day notice to move, and leave with them for 30 days of them causing trouble.

Read the 100's of posts we get about people wanting to know how to kick a family member out that was only suppose to be there a month or two and it is not two years or three years

[burgard]

Yes we have agreed to set boundaries,and I like that my husband gets to bond with his brother, this brother also donated his kidney to him, so I'm am willing to do any thing to help him out ,I'm sure my husband feels the same.
But I can't help but worry that in this bonding I will be left alone, or not as important to him,
My husband I have a wonderful connection,am I sounding jealous?
They got in last night,we had a nice time,he already mentioned getting their own place in our complex,
I feel like my space is being invaded,is it wrong to feel this way

[ScottGem]

How long have you been married that you are so insecure about your marriage?

[burgard]

Well we have been together 4 yrs and married almost 2. does it come off I'm insecure, I'm a very quiet person, I'm an only child and not really not used to a house full.

[simoneaugie]

Trust that they will move out soon. Find someplace to be other than home, for those times when the crowd drives you crazy. Please, do not be their maid. These guys are old enough to do their own laundry and pick up after themselves.