[kaneda]

Us friends? Hardly. Well he acted as if I were his male buddy, showing me pictures of girls he likes (aw the torture), wanting to play games together, watch *his* movies (never what I'd suggest). Actually he was my little princess :) and I'd fulfill her every wish (without the naked photo request that is).And I was in the role of some creepy,needy guy who loves the sole my princess walked on.
I'm sorry I guess I got a little upset now :) his means of friendship were ridiculous.He often even stated that he had lost all respect for me ,wasn't afraid of anything I could do or say and that I was weak,needy and pretty much a drama queen. He's somewhat a narcissist,very arrogant and spiteful,he's actually pretty lovable and a sweet guy IF you treat him right and set firm boundaries,but after the breakup maybe I really lost all power do to so : x
Anyway I'm starting to change my opinion on the sending him a birthday card idea : /

[kaneda]

I am not over him,but then again I don't have any false hope or expectations,because he was pretty clear on that part. "I will never love you,you're not what i want and never will be,accept that" clear.

[amIwrong]

I agree

If you have no false hope, or expectations of anything else, then send him a card. But if your trying to open that door again, maybe its not so good of an idea. Have you gotten over him or not? If not I would say just leave it alone.

[ihatewestseneca]

I haven't read the responses or anything and I'm sure these wonderful people have already convinced you that it's a bad idea... because it is a bad idea... no good can come from it.

However, if you're over him, which I doubt you are because you're still counting the days on the NC calendar, then I would say that its okay, as long as you don't have any hope that he'll be like "She's so sweet, i made a mistake!" which is very very doubtful, sorry.

Stick with NC, NC is for life (at least that's what you should tell yourself right now). One day he'll realize that he let a good one go and he'll regret it... but that probably won't be for a long time. The thing about dumpers is that they think they're right, always... they aren't. Most are dumb and confused and don't know what they want and they don't realize what they have until they date a tuna, and that tuna screws them over somehow, and they want that salmon (thats us! :D) back... but by then its usually too late, and we are over them.

Good luck and stick with NC, it really does work wonders.

[kaneda]

Thank you for all the advice and sorry about yesterday - I needed to vent obviouslly.
Actually he views gestures,that are meant to be sweet and thoughtful as weak and needy so I won't delude myself ,that a simple email could change his mind.It could piss him off though,which I find kind of funny :)

[blackmage]

Wish my ex would just want to watch me play soccer and not even tell me she's there till later that'd maek my day but I think she just going to text maybe call before she sleeps