[stephysteph8978]

Last night my boyfriend of two years broke up with me for the most ludicrous reason in the world. My boyfriend found out that his brother in law is my cousins husbands cousin (I know it sounds odd) but we are not related. He told me that it was too weird, however he's known about this forever and he said that now he wanted to break up over it. But then I said this doesn't change how I feel about you I love you so much and then later he said I feel what you feel and I said what does that mean? He then said I'm not telling you now. I'm so confused and broken hearted, I don't know what to think. He said if he changed his mind I would be the first person to know. I'm not talking to him (as hard as it may be) I really hope he comes back but I don't know if he will. We had a very open relationship and we talked about everything, getting married, having kids and we were planning on moving in together soon. I know this is a question that you probably get a lot but what goes through a guys mind after a breakup and will he come back?:(

[plonak]

This guy is not telling you the whole story, obviously. It's very evident that that is not the reason why he broke up with you, he just doesn't want to tell you the truth.. honestly who cares is cousins of cousins marry or whatever the situation, he seems like a total jerk for doing that and I wouldn't stand for it.. I'd say he'd better have a REALLY good excuse for what he did to you by breaking your heart... relationships are about trust and honestly you proly won't trust him after this if you get back together because Im sure in the back of your head you will think he could do this again..

When he's ready to contact you (I suggest you don't contact him) tell him to be honest and not worry about hurting your feelings, you need to get to the root of the problem.. and I know this hurts but don't wait around for this guy if he's going to play with your emotions just to get a reaction.. you need to heal and move on if he's going to be like that

[losingit77]

There's 2 possibilities here:

(1) If that's the real reason he broke up with you, he's an idiot and you should be happy to have him out of your life.
(2) Most likely: There's another reason he broke it off and he's just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship.

What to do now? Don't contact him. Leave him alone to stir in his own emotions. Just like your stirring right now, he is or will start soon. If he contacts you and even hints at a reconciliation, you need to know the REAL reason he broke it off because whatever that is needs to be worked out before getting back together. Since this may or may not happen, what you should do now is just take care of yourself and try to move on. The first couple of days/weeks will be hard, but maintain No Contact and it'll be easier. Don't try to figure out what's going on in his head, because honestly, he's probably not even sure right now what's going on in his head. Remember, sometimes guys hear more by a woman's silence than they do by our words.

[talaniman]

Whatever is going on in his head, his actions say NO RELATIONSHIP.