[royweins]

Hey!

Haven't been writing in while. I'm having rough period (very confused).

After talking to my Ex for a couple of weeks I came to realize that it does more bad than good, It gave me hope about our relationship, and again I was disappointed.

So, I told her that I can't be in touch with her if it's not going anywhere back to what we were.

I think it's better this way although it hurts like HELL!! :confused:

I can't believe it's been almost a year since we broke up, but it doesn't seem to get better. I feel chained to something I can't let go of, and my friends say that it's a matter of choice and that I don't want to let go.

Is it normal to feel like that a year after? Will I be writing these exact words in a year?

Help me friends. I'm going C-R-A-Z-Y! :eek:

Thanks everybody

[plonak]

By contacting you Ex, like you said makes things worse, and slows the healing process. I also heard that however long you were with the person, it takes that long to get over or fall out of love with them.. for example.. if you've been with her for a year, it will proly take you a year to get over it, and since you've been having this hope and dissapointment every now and then, you back slide in your progress and make it harder for you to heal.. suggest NO MORE CONTACT! Good luck. I am sorry that you're still hurting, I feel for you, heartbreak is the worst pain imaginable!

[royweins]

Yes it is... the probkem is we were together for almost 4 years...

It'll take me that long?? Hehe

[plonak]

No probably not.. that's a really long time to be getting over someone.. . I just don't think that rule applies to people who have been together that long.. I'm sure a lot of things remind you of her because she was such a big part of your life for a long time.. you just need to build new memories and new experiences and that's when I think you will be over her.. not sure how long it will take you.

[talaniman]

Is it normal to feel like that a year after? Will I be writing these exact words in a year?

However long it takes, just stop contact with her, until YOU HAVE moved on.