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That80sGuy · Apr 23, 2008, 05:51 PM

I am currently in a really difficult situation and I don't know what to do about it

I had been in a serious relationship with a girl I originally met at work for around a year, when after visiting her family in Spain things went downhill really quickly and a month after returning she finished with me.

At this point she told me that the relationship had got to serious and she felt that I had much stronger feelings for her than she had for me. But she did however say that she felt we would get back together in time when she was ready.

Although we had split up we continued to sleep together most nights although we stopped all physical contact except holding each other as we slept.

About 6 months after this she told me that she didn't ever want to get back together and we stopped staying together and started to spend less and less time together.

I started to feel better about things and began showing an interest in other girls. She has now started to spend almost everyday with me again and invited me to go with her to visit her family again this summer. She has also started flirting with me again and refused to tell me that she doesn't still love me. Tonight I asked her if she wanted to get back together but she got angry and she told me no and that she doesn't have any romantic feelings for me and that she doesn't want me to get into a relationship with anyone else because she doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

This has left me really confused, I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her but really I don't know how she really feels and what to do.

Any advice would be really appreciated

lynxwizard · Apr 24, 2008, 03:55 AM

Originally Posted by That80sGuy

I am currently in a really difficult situation and I don't know what to do about it

I had been in a serious relationship with a girl I originally met at work for around a year, when after visiting her family in Spain things went downhill really quickly and a month after returning she finished with me.

At this point she told me that the relationship had got to serious and she felt that I had much stronger feelings for her than she had for me. But she did however say that she felt we would get back together in time when she was ready.

Although we had split up we continued to sleep together most nights although we stopped all physical contact except holding each other as we slept.

About 6 months after this she told me that she didn't ever want to get back together and we stopped staying together and started to spend less and less time together.

I started to feel better about things and began showing an interest in other girls. She has now started to spend almost everyday with me again and invited me to go with her to visit her family again this summer. She has also started flirting with me again and refused to tell me that she doesn't still love me. Tonight I asked her if she wanted to get back together but she got angry and she told me no and that she doesn't have any romantic feelings for me and that she doesn't want me to get into a relationship with anyone else because she doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

This has left me really confused, I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her but really I don't know how she really feels and what to do.

Any advice would be really appreciated

She is confused and being selfish, leave her alone and you have a decent chance of her coming back

PunkChic · Apr 24, 2008, 04:47 AM

You deserve better.

Do you think any true friend would stop you from seeing other girls?

boredINmind · Apr 24, 2008, 06:11 AM

She is jealous, and has a problem with the fact that you are not going to die without her. Leave her alone, she is just going to drag you behind her, and try to ruin your chances of moving on without her. If she wanted you to be happy, then she would try to make you that way, either by getting back together or letting you move on.

You sound like a great guy, you can do better! Find a girl that actually wants to be with you, instead of hogging your time without any real benefits.

talaniman · Apr 24, 2008, 06:41 AM

Tonight I asked her if she wanted to get back together but she got angry and she told me no and that she doesn't have any romantic feelings for me and that she doesn't want me to get into a relationship with anyone else because she doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

Sounds crystal clear to me. She has effectively stopped you from seeing anyone else, while she has put you in the friend zone, and will keep you confused and hopeful, until SHE IS READY TO LET GO!! Your solution is very simple. Disappear from her life, and seek out your own. That will end the confusion, and drama, and allow you to keep your dignity and self respect.