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IneedHelp222 · Apr 23, 2008, 04:42 AM

Is it wrong that I think strippers are disgusting? I think its so degrading. This girl I was seeing knew how I feel about them, and told me she was thinking of doing it. She always told me money meant nothing to her. Then contradicted herself with saying " I can make a grand a night". She asked how I felt about it and I obviously told her how disgusting I think it is and how its selling her body and how degrading it is. We fought about it and now its pretty much over between us . I think of her totally different now because of her even having the idea of stripping. She's a smart girl and hard working, and wants to get in to a pharmaceutical type job. I told her she can do much better and not have to lose the respect of others over it. I know most guys love it, but I think its gross. Anyone else feel the same? I also know some girls HAVE to do it to make it by in life. But for this girl its different.

Romefalls19 · Apr 23, 2008, 05:22 AM

I'm going to disagree with you here. There are actually some very classy places where stripping takes place. I don't know if you have ever been to a strip club, as you may just have this illusion it's like what you see on TV. I wouldn't see a problem with dating a stripper as long as I know I'm the one she comes home to and also the one who gets to touch(pardon if that statement offends anyone)

The only time I think it's disgusting is when it's one of those, anything goes type clubs. Then the situations and the cleaniness of the girls begins to get questioned. What you displayed to her when you reacted like that was you want to control what she does with her life and her body. So in reality, maybe it's best that it did end.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 23, 2008, 05:28 AM

Ok, I will not address the way you feel, that is the way you feel.

So what you have done is found out about the other person while you were dating, a lot of people do not have the same moral values, and part of dating is finding the person who matches what we are like.

nickshehe · Apr 23, 2008, 05:52 AM

I guess it depends on the type of individual you are..
I love strip clubs, it's good fun.. But I'm quite a jealous person so I couldn't see myself dating a stripper.. I would go insane.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 23, 2008, 05:58 AM

I find stripping as a profession totally degrading against women, disrespectful and disgusting.

Women who strip allow themselves to be viewed as a sex object and nothing else. I know as a women I want to be viewed much higher than that.

I'm sorry but my path of a good life doesn't go any where near exposing my body for the pleasure of men. I would rather impress a guy with my brains and charm.

BUT that is only my opinion.

IneedHelp222, I believe you are right when you say that your stripper friend can do better. It's good to know that she wants to get into a pharmaceutical profession, and I do know for a fact that she can raise money elsewhere for her education.

And no, I don't believe that some women have to strip to get money. That's a poor exuse. Just think of how many jobs there are out there for a woman: waitress, childcare/babysitting, maid, receptionist, librarian, cashier, zoo keeper, construction worker... the list goes on! And most of those jobs that I listed don't even require a college degree. Your friend could use that job as a stepping stone for something even greater, such as college to become a pharmacist.

Yes, the economy might be bad right now and jobs are scarce but anything is possible. She just has to put her mind to it. Yes, stripping might be an easy job to get into but I believe that a woman will go no where in life with that.

Good luck and I know your friend is a smart person, she just needs a little push. Maybe you're the guy to do it!

talaniman · Apr 23, 2008, 08:08 AM

She has made her choice, and since it's a dealbreaker, you did what you thought was right, and broke up. Move on, a you'll find someone more in line with what you believe.

IneedHelp222 · Apr 24, 2008, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Good luck and I know your friend is a smart person, she just needs a little push. Maybe you're the guy to do it!

I think its too late now for that lol. But I like the way you think.:)

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 24, 2008, 11:07 AM

Oh you're right! He isn't seeing her anymore.

But he can still give her a little push as a friend. If they are even friends now.

:) :)

topladyj · Apr 24, 2008, 11:08 AM

Yeah there is nothing classey about striping, I really think you can find better stripers only derserve to be with pimps in my mind.lol There is a difference between modeling and striping and I have never ever seen a classey stripper.

Romefalls19 · Apr 24, 2008, 11:13 AM

2 words... DEMI MOORE? Classy

Romefalls19 · Apr 24, 2008, 11:14 AM

And what you're telling me is posing nude in a magazine such as Playboy or Penthouse is OK but stripping is not? That's being a little hypocritical in my eyes as they are one in the same.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 24, 2008, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

2 words... DEMI MOORE?? Classy

She's an actress Romey!

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 24, 2008, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

And what you're telling me is posing nude in a magazine such as Playboy or Penthouse is ok but stripping is not? That's being a little hypocritical in my eyes as they are one in the same.

No body here said posing nude was all right. Well at least I didn't.

Romefalls19 · Apr 24, 2008, 11:33 AM

I thought that's what she meant when she said "modeling" because stripping and modeling(as in clothes on) is a completely different game. Ha and beautiful, I was definitely kidding about the Demi Moore comment lol... I had cake today, little hyper ha ha

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 24, 2008, 11:39 AM

Lol you're funny Romey!

I don't think she meant nude modeling though she could've and in which case yes, stripping and nude modeling are basically the same thing.

topladyj · Apr 25, 2008, 10:28 AM

No I was comparing a classy looking model to a bleach blond trailer trash bimbo needing to strip and feed her kids lol. Please no one take offense to this.

Romefalls19 · Apr 25, 2008, 10:39 AM

Oh OK, then I apologize, I did not know exactly what you meant by your comment. Granted, I would never date a stripper but could understand the circumstances.

topladyj · Apr 25, 2008, 10:43 AM

Yeah I knew this girl I looked up to she was going to school for her bachalors and then I found out she was a stripper I have not ever thought of her the same and will never look up to her anymore but I guess you got to do what you got to do. But I am the same way heck no I would never date one. I would hate to think that people are putting money down my lovers pants all night long.

ISneezeFunny · Apr 25, 2008, 10:49 AM

Let her do what she wants.

... then either deal with it or don't.

Simple as that.

Synnen · Apr 25, 2008, 10:53 AM

Originally Posted by bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I find stripping as a profession totally degrading against women, disrespectful and disgusting.

Women who strip allow themselves to be viewed as a sex object and nothing else. I know as a women I want to be viewed much higher than that.

I'm sorry but my path of a good life doesn't go any where near exposing my body for the pleasure of men. I would rather impress a guy with my brains and charm.

And no, I don't believe that some women have to strip to get money. That's a poor exuse. Just think of how many jobs there are out there for a woman: waitress, childcare/babysitting, maid, receptionist, librarian, cashier, zoo keeper, construction worker...the list goes on! And most of those jobs that I listed don't even require a college degree. Your friend could use that job as a stepping stone for something even greater, such as college to become a pharmacist.
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I hope you only wear neck to ankle clothing--no short skirts, no low cut/v-neck tops. No dangly earrings, and that you either keep your hair short or wear it up. You shouldn't wear tight jeans, or tight slacks, and DEFINITELY not heels.

Otherwise you, too, are buying into the sexual image of women.

Admit it--for a night on the town, you WANT to look "sexy" not "modest".

Every one of the jobs you listed makes less in a week than a stripper makes in a NIGHT. If you have kid(s) to support, no education, and are looking to make something better of yourself, stripping is a good way to get that money--you can work 2 nights a week, go to school days, and actually BE there for your kids too!

I can understand your point about feeling that women that strip don't have any self-respect. I do, however, know 4 women who have been strippers. One was desperate for ANY money. One just wanted a job to help pay for school that wasn't going to take away from her time for school and homework, one was a drug addict and used it to pay for her habit, and one just truly enjoyed the power trip it gave her. Two of them stopped stripping as soon as they finished college.

Frankly, it's a personal choice. A woman that chooses to strip for a living should be JUST as supported by her friends/family as a woman that decides to act for a living. I mean, these days, both occupations come with the expectation that you'll be taking your clothes off. Same with modeling too, I guess.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I'm not saying you can't have yours about this. I'm just pointing out that it's hypocritcal of you to EVER want to look sexy, then say that you don't want to be seen as a sex object. (the "you" here is in general, not targeting BB here). I also think it's somewhat silly to point out those jobs as possible "substitutes" for stripping--the pay scale isn't even CLOSE.