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ashini · Apr 23, 2008, 12:03 AM

Hello everyone,

5 years ago I met a boy and after an awesome friendship I fell in love with him.he had many girlfriends and he used to tell me about his dates and all small things in his life.he took my opinion in every small matter in his life.but a day came when I couldn't hide my feelings for him and I told him about my feelings and I told him that I loved him very much.that day he told me he also loves me,and promised me to leave all other girls and he kept his promise.he loved me a lot and our relation went ahead till 4 years.than a time came when he decided to go abroad 4 making a good future for us and I supported him in his decision.its 1 and half years since he went to west and we are still in love.he still fulfills my every small little wish and works very hard 4 giving me a good life after marriage.we are planning to get married this year.
But last week something happened that made me a little worried... he told me that initially when I proposed him he didn't love me at all... and that he had lied to me just to use me.. and he was planning to leave me after having fun.but he confessed to me that my love made him fall in love with me,and since than he has only loved me.he told me that he felt he should tell me this before our marriage.. I know he has never made me feel as a use and throw material,I love him a lot too.. but his confession is not getting out of my mind.. how should I forget it??

SJB1701E · Apr 23, 2008, 12:11 AM

You don't have to forget it, accept it for the confession that it is and move on. The point is, he says he is in love with you now and that is all that should matter. He didn't use you, and it sounds like he's grown up a bit in the past 5 years. The fact that he is openly confessing this to you should show you that he is serious about you now, even if he wasn't in the past. Sometimes it takes people longer han others to develop strong feelings. I'd say, he is being open and honest, which shows he cares about you and is mature, so accept it and move forward with him. Its in the past and that is where it should stay.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 23, 2008, 05:04 AM

It sounds like he does love you and wanted to be honest moving on, He should be respected for this.

talaniman · Apr 23, 2008, 08:26 AM

Judge a man by what he does, as we tend to say a lot of things we don't mean. For now don't let what he has revealed to you as anything more than what it is, a declaration as to how his feelings have changed, and he cares for you. You'll know if it's the truth, when he marries you.