First off, we are both in our mid-late 20's.

We have been dating for 6 months when I caught him in a little lie this past weekend. He supposedly went out of town for work (last wed through sun). We spoke everyday he was gone. He sent me a pic of him in his hotel room- I noticed it looked like his room! When I saw him when he came back, I asked him about it, and he denied it. I decided to drop it and we continued having a nice evening. The next morning, I left for work, and he sent me his usual cute message to me when I got to work. The picture issue was still in my mind so I told him I must be crazy, but everything in the pic matches up to his room! He told I was reading too much into it, and I just told him to be honest and he said he was. It wasn't that big of a deal to me, I just wanted the truth. He then replied that he was tired of me accusing him and told me to forget about dinner the next night. He was planning to make me dinner and take me out all this week... :( I have apologized for not settling the issue while we discussed it, but I know I'm not completely at fault either. This happened on Monday. On Tuesday, I still didn't hear from him, after I told him I felt bad for how I acted, that he didn't have to ignore me, and if he didn't want to speak to me, just tell me, and if this was his way of moving on, to take care and that I will miss him a lot. Yesterday, Wednesday, I apologized for being a nuisance for nagging him, but I told him I hope we can put this behind us and move on and continue what we have. He has not responded.

I don't know what to think? Is it over? Should I move on if he can't be mature enough to talk to me? Or does he really just need his personal space? I know I nagged, and overanalyzed, so maybe I deserve to ignored..

I even spoke to a friend old enough to be my dad, a man who I know has been a player, had his fair share of women, trust me. When I told him that about this, the first thing he said was that my boyfriend needed space and didn't know how to tell me since men are "stupid." He told me to give my boyfriend space, to let him cool down, and contact me, which he will do eventually.

I don't understand. We were so compatible up until this point. I know this might be just a bump in the road and I'm willing to let the issue go, but I'm so hurt. He treats me so well, so affectionate, sweet, loving and complimentary. He never lets me pay for anything, we talk everyday, and we see each other everyweek. He made me smile and laugh so much. Our sex life was incredible too. I really felt like he could be the one. I don't understand why he might be throwing me away like this... I'm so hurt. I'm a little optimistic and will give him his space. Everyone just says to give him his space, even men, so I hope that will do the trick to get us through this bump in the road.. I can't believe how sad I am...

Darlin, no, no one deserves to be ignored. You really don't believe that.

You saw something that puzzled you, you asked - not out of distrust, but simply because it looked like his room! There is nothing wrong with that. It bothered you, he denied it and tried to brush it under the rug, and it still bothers you. Don't apologize for being bothered and don't defend him for ignoring you.

Communication is a key in a relationship - so is trust. You trust a person because they give you reason to trust them.

You said that he wants you to "give him space, let him cool down, and then he'll contact you eventually." Hon, do you want to be a priority or a when-I-get-around-to-you? You should want to be a priority in your boyfriends life, just like he should want to be a priority in yours.

Maybe you should just give him space... but I'd still want to know what was up with the picture... I'm actually interested to see what some of the others have to say on this one...

I agree with Historian!(nice to see you on here again) The whole space thing is definitely a good idea. Why be a option when someone is your priority? Doesn't make sense to me, or anyone else once they realize it. Don't call or Facebook or anything remotely of contacting him sort, let him come to you. This way if he doesn't then you can already be on the path of healing. By the sounds of it, something shady was going on but ONLY if you can prove that he was sending pics of his actual room. Which is he did that, drop the loser hun.

I agree that you should give him some space right now. Wait for him to contact you because you don't want to seem too available to him. I don't think you were wrong to ask questions. Honestly, the picture thing sounds weird to me; I would be suspicious too if that happened. I'm not saying he's lying, but if the picture looks identical to his room, then I wonder if you might be onto something. The fact that when you brought it up, he became angry, cancelled your date, and stopped talking to you, seems kind of strange. Have you noticed anything else strange like this? Have you ever suspected him of lying to you before?

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Originally Posted by peggyhill

I agree that you should give him some space right now. Wait for him to contact you because you don't want to seem too available to him. I don't think you were wrong to ask questions. Honestly, the picture thing sounds weird to me; I would be suspicious too if that happened. I'm not saying he's lying, but if the picture looks identical to his room, then I wonder if you might be onto something. The fact that when you brought it up, he became angry, cancelled your date, and stopped talking to you, seems kind of strange. Have you noticed anything else strange like this? Have you ever suspected him of lying to you before?

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No, Peggy. This is why I am baffled by his behavior right now..

Oh, sorry everyone for misspelling the question. I meant for it to read, "Why is my boyfriend ignoring me?" :)

After only 6 months your really just starting to know each other, and if trust is an issue, then rethink this whole thing, especially if he is unwilling to talk honestly with you. So yes, leave jerky boy alone, until he can present himself better. Let him chase you, as he is the one acting dumbly.

This whole situation seems very suspicious. I don't know of many hotel rooms that may duplicate my bed room.. .

Don't let him get away with the ignoring thing girl ;) because once he has that power of you he will use it whenever you get into a fight.

You should Text him and say Look Boy if your going to act like a kid then ill treat you like one. Talk to me when you grow up.


And you got to be hard with him. He can't sulk! Trust me I have done it many many times and girls that get upset with it I use it even more.

So yeah as I said its not your fault ;) and don't let him get away with this
I swear if you tell him that he is going to be like Oh Damn! I better make it up
And he will make you all the dinners in the world ;).

And if he leaves you then he isn't worth it anyway ;) but I really doubt he will leave you he is just sulking :) trying to make you beg for him

Don't!