I am in a gay long distance relationship UK and New York. I trust my girlfriend completely. She is my world, I adore her and I know she loves me too. But there is this one girl who I can't seem to trust her around. It's more the girl and not my girlfriend. She gets very shady when around her and I feel as though this girl likes my girlfriend and is trying to split us up but my girlfriend is naïve and can't see that.

I want to drop it - she states they are best friends and I trust her with everyone else so why can't I just accept they're nothing more than friends? When she is with her she doesn't speak to me or it is at a bare minimum whereas when she is with her other friends she always speaks to me so this gives me reason to doubt?

I know I over think and over analyze things but I don't do it with any other person but this one.
HELP its driving me mad and I want it to stop.

This statement contradicts itself. Not trusting the "other" girl is exactly the same as not trusting your girlfriend. If you truly trusted your girlfriend then you would trust her to say no to this "shady" girl or block contact if she did try something.

Try working out why it is you don't trust your girlfriend around this girl and work on that. Talking to her can fix things sometimes, or start a fight it really depends on her personality or you can leave her because without trust, there is no relationship.

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I trusted her with my life. Except one time she was a bit shadey when it came to this one person and never did this with anyone else so I always doubted it.. she told me it was nothing and I was to trust her so I let it go and we carried on as normal (although it was always in the back of my mind).

She broke up with me because she said that it wasn't for the best right now for either of us (this baffled me because I'm head over heels with her) and I thought was about me too. She told me that this person who is meant to be her best friend the one I doubted all along told her that they had feelings for her.. but it wasn't anything to do with why she broke up with me...

She told me she loved me too much to let me go completely and always wanted to be friends so I tried the whole friends thing with her and it was OK. We skyped lots still and she told me she missed me and kept saying we will be OK and we will work out just not right now and to trust her.. so this obviously made me so happy I felt like I was getting her back..

Now this weekend she has gone to see the person in question till Monday (5 days) and she has only spoke to me twice today and both times were very blunt as though she didn't want to speak.. didn't even say enjoy your weekend if she wasn't going to speak to me... now I feel like such an idiot for letting her tell me that everything is going to be fine and then make me feel like this... I don't know if she truly has feelings for this person as she always told me she didn't know how she felt about it .

So I'm over thinking everything . Do I trust her and think that we are going to be OK or do I sit and worry all weekend about her developing feelings for the person in question. I know she can do what she wants now as she is single but still its breaking my heart. Is she messing with my head and using me when she wants me around and not doing anything but then shuts me out of her life when with this person. Or is she telling me the truth and just having a nice weekend with her friend. PLEASE HELP I am going crazy :(:(:(:(

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It looks like you were correct in your other post and now since she has dumped you, stop this friends stuff and break all contact and disappear. That's what you do when your suspicions were correct and you get dumped.

She is just stringing you along in case this "thing" doesn't workout so stop being used. End this in your own mind and don't play with your own feelings.

But why is she making me hold on? I can't physically let her go. She means the world to me and I want her back. I would do anything for her but I don't understand how she can make me feel like this? Is it because she doesn't want me to not go to america so she looks bad?