Trouble with my relationship.
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I've been having a bit of trouble with girlfriend lately. All we've been doing is fighting and then making up. We've been going out for 7 months and a few days. At first it was pretty nice and I was happy and she was happy and that's all that mattered.
Lately, I just feel like I don't care anymore. I need my space. I feel like things are getting too serious and it scares me.
She claims that I am the love of her life and that I am one of the best things that has happened to her.
This is my first relationship and this is her 2nd.
She wants to transfer to my school if possible and perhaps move in with me after college if we last that long.
I just want to live alone. I like being alone.
I wish things were simpler like before.
Last night she told me that I seem a lot different than I was before: not romantic and cold. She tells me that I am not like she thought I was that I am different, compared to before where we had many things in common.
Last night I told her that what we have is love not true love and that I don't think true love even exists. I did tell her that I do love and care for her though and that won't change.
That set her off.
We might break up.
I am not sure how I feel about this. I don't know if I am happy or sad. I probably feel indifferent if you will.
I just feel like she should have someone how is there for her all the time. Who wants to talk to her everyday without fail.
She needs someone like that and I don't know if I am like that anymore.
My idea of a relationship differs from her's I suppose.
I always thought that if I went out with someone we'd hang out on weekends. Talk for a little bit and go on with our lives. I never really thought of relationships growing up, only my goals and my future. Relationships for me were always optional, always secondary, not really important until I got a lot older.
Her think idea of a relationship is a promise and that she feels that she'll never be happy again if anything happened to us.
Yes I believe that when you are with someone you are faithful to them but you don't spend every waking minute on the phone with them. You give them the space they need and plan nice little dates every now and then.
I don't really know what to do to be quite honest.
Do I wait it out and see if it's just me?
Do I do something about it and end it?
Please I really need some advice. I am going crazy.
Thanks.
Something that's been bothering me.
So I am back yet again.
I haven't been on in a while.
I was wondering if I should be with a person if I don't really see a future with them.
I've been going out with my girlfriend for 9 months today.
When haven't been speaking for the past 5 days or so.
She was depressed last time I spoke to her and has been ignoring me since.
I tried contacting her but she won't answer so I just stopped.
I find that when she gets depressed I really don't want to be around her.
I know I should want to help her but I sometimes feel like it is too much for me to handle.
I've been dealing with this for the past few months or so.
It's a sort of cycle: She gets depressed and then I tend to feel like crap.
Any advice?
I don't think I am happy.
Thinking about things concerning my relationship
So I am back yet again.
I haven't been on in a while.
I was wondering if I should be with a person if I don't really see a future with them.
I've been going out with my girlfriend for 9 months today.
When haven't been speaking for the past 5 days or so.
She was depressed last time I spoke to her and has been ignoring me since.
I tried contacting her but she won't answer so I just stopped.
And when she did answer is was two or more hours later resulting in my staying up late. I found that completely inconsiderate of her and I've told her just to tell me when she didn't want to talk but she didn't.
I find that when she gets depressed I really don't want to be around her.
I know I should want to help her but I sometimes feel like it is too much for me to handle.
I feel as if I have invested most of my energy into her and her feelings than anything else.
I've been dealing with this for the past few months or so.
It's a sort of cycle: She gets depressed and then I tend to feel like crap.
She can be a bit condescending at times. She says "D'aw that's cute" when I tell her things about my family.
I find it quite irritating.
I find that I don't want to talk to her most of the time when she contacts me but I do so anyway.
And if I say something that contradicts her opinion her (ex: Not liking her favorite movie a much because I find the ending very melodramatic) she gets offended.
I feel like I do not care as much as I should and that we are more friends than anything else.
(Long distance relationship)
Also is it ****ty of me to want to focus more on my school priorities more than my relationship?
I am in my second semester of college. I want to do well and I don't want to be distracted. We talk a lot and I find that to be distracting. I used to push aside my school work last semester to talk to her because she was lonely but she never really did that for me.
Any advice?
I don't think I am happy.