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    Dec 27, 2008, 12:03 PM
    I think I'm falling for him!
    (Sorry my english is not good enough :) ) So im 19, and since i was 16 i ve been chating with a guy , we were just friends we were seeing each other on cam
    we talked alooooot about everything and nothing
    but i 've never met him cause he's not from my city
    So when i were 17 almost 18 i gratuated and i went to a college in HIS city
    but he didn't ask me out and i found it totally normal at the time
    So summer 2008 : we were talking Sooooo much we were like talking to 5am or +
    and i started to have feelings for him
    one day we had a fight and we didnt talk for like 2months
    and when we begin to talk again he was like i miss so much and stuff
    and now it's my Second year in that college
    one time he called me and asked for directions to my house and i was on my balcony and he was in front of me in a car; we were like talking on the phone and staring at each other lool it was so funny:D:D he told me to come to himbut i said no cause it was late at night and i didnt want to my father to see me lol
    last week, he asked me to dinner:D but i said no :)
    every day every night we talk and now
    i think i fallig for him :confused:
    help me i dont know wht to do
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    Dec 27, 2008, 02:18 PM

    Why do you keep saying NO?
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    Dec 27, 2008, 03:24 PM

    He obviously likes you or he wouldn't ask. You like him too so if you keep saying no he will think you are not interested. You would as well if it was the other way round, so if he asks to go out again then say yes if you feel the same way. If you only want to chat then you must tell him where he stands, but as you both seem to get on so well then then go out with him. It might work out fantastic but you will never know until you try! Good luck.
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    Dec 27, 2008, 05:49 PM

    Tell the guy how you feel, it seems obvious to us that he likes you and you like him. And you both seem to get on really well : )
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    Dec 27, 2008, 06:14 PM
    You need to have a good honest talk with this guy and let him know that way you feel, it sounds that he maybe intrested in you too.

    Why do you keep saying No to the guy when he asks you out to do things ? This could be sending the wrong message because if he is intrested in you this could put him off.

    I guess the question you need to ask yourself is, if you are ready to make the move from friends to lovers, because once you change a friendship you may never get it back if the relationship does not work.
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    Dec 27, 2008, 07:35 PM

    Thank you all I appreciate to you that :)
    I really think I'm falling for him but I'm afraid that once we go out I'm not going to like him anymore :s
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    Dec 27, 2008, 11:25 PM

    You'll never know until you try it.. all u know now is that you have feelings for him so you should go for it when he asks you out..
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    Dec 28, 2008, 12:04 AM

    Exactly as people are saying: The only way to find out is to try. Just like food, or some sort of hobby; You won't know till you try.

    So you can either try, or just say no. Whichever one will help you get on with life I suppose is the one you should go with.
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    Dec 28, 2008, 06:45 AM

    You should at least see if your fear is grounded in fact, or stop sending him mixed messages, and rejecting him.
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    Dec 28, 2008, 06:57 AM

    Thank you for your responses
    I don't know I guess I'm not ready to go out with him?
    But I do care about him so much I like him
    And I'm afraid I'm going to regret it cause one we start to go we can never be like before
    But sometimes I think maybe it will be for the best
    I'm confused :s
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    #11

    Jan 6, 2009, 11:27 AM
    I don't know what to think ? :s
    Rememberr?? It's me from
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...im-296094.html
    So if you saw this page than you know about me :)
    I have something to tell u
    The other day we were talking and we started to talk about our childhood and high school..
    And he told me that he he was going out with a girl
    And he told me she was nice and stuff
    And he talked about her for like 15 min
    He didn't see her for like 5 year and told me that was a child love or smthg like that
    So now I want to know why he was talking to me about her?
    Is it because he still in love with her ? Even it has been 5 year ?:s or he just wanted to tell me about his experiences ?
    I don't know what to think
    And just so you know he asked me to go out with last Friday and I said sorry I have exams
    We talk all the time text msge, on the phone, online
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    Jan 6, 2009, 11:31 AM

    Sounds like he may either think of you as a sister/confidant
    And inviting you out as friends
    Or he may be like whoever will go out with me I will be happy with.
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    #13

    Jan 7, 2009, 09:35 AM
    For now your just talking, and since your scared to date him any way, just keep talking. How many times do you think you can turn a guy down before he goes else where? At least be honest if you have no real interest in dating.

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