[whenbeautydies]

Ive been with my girlfriend for 15 months. She's in an arranged marriage because of her son. Saturday situation snapped and her husband involver her parents. They've completely taken control over what she does, she works for her fathers office, so far as to install a gps in her car and forbid her to see me. She's 30. She's asked me for space because she can't deal with this right now along with all the stress she is having in her life. She says she loves me and its not something she wants to do but needs to be done instead. Its been a week. Ive seen her once and she instantly hugged and kissed me told me she loved and had missed me. Her decision hasn't changed, she wants no contact because she needs her space. All I've done is walk numb through my week. We were waiting two more years so her son would be old enough to understand and we could start a life together. Her husband knows about us and he doesn't care as he has someone else too, their union is just because of their 11 yr old son. I don't know what to do, all I do is cry and get this feeling in my chest where I just want to hear her voice or see her smile... Even a hug. Why is she pushing me away when I'm the only one that doesn't cause her stress? How do I deal with this? Please help.

[smkanand]

Man! You are invested your time in a complicated relationship. A married women with a child will always care about her children more than anything. Plus she must be wanting her son a loving and caring family. Her husband obviously love this child. I'm not sure whether he loves the wife or not. May be he also wants mother of their son. Now her family and parents wants to see their daughter and grandchild happy. So even if she said she loves you, I think she is in double mind. After 2 years when her son will little more aware, she must be wishing good schooling and life for him. So it is impossible to separate child and father. You should get out of this relationship as soon as possible because things will going to be more complicated. She had a good family and life, leave her alone. She will understand for sure.