[MCSTRIKE]

In October 2006 I started seeing someone we got on so well and could chat to each other about anything. She is at uni and is studying dance and in her final year she was off uni ill with septic tonistilities and she sent me an email saying I am so stressed out I have been off uni ill and my mates come round with loads of work for me to catch up on I am sorry to say this but at this moment in time I don't have the time for a relationship with all the work I have on I didn't realise how hard this yr at uni was going to be for me, I enjoyed the time we spent together and I'm sorry I have had to do this I hope you understand, take care. About five hrs later she rang me and we chatted on the phone for about 3 hrs then she was txting me all night after about four days we ended up getting back together.
Things were great again Christmas was here and she spent about 80 quid on me at xmas and she lives 70 miles away from me and she came up to see me about 5 times over xmas whilst she was off uni and she even told me how I was the best boyfriend she ever had and how happy I made her. As soon as she goes back to uni after xmas she sends me a text saying I'm sorry I have gone back to uni my timetables changed and I have even more work to do now I physically don't have the time to see you and be with you now so its over once again. I text her a few times after we split but realised there was no point so I haven't had any contact with her for over a week now and I hav'nt heard from her. Do you think that uni is the only reason that she ended it or is there more to it then this? If she cared about me I think she could have ended it in a better way then what she did do as I think ending someone in a text is guttless and heartless.

[Nosnosna]

There's no telling for sure if it's just the schoolwork or if it's something else. Regardless, you're right to think it's a shoddy way to break up.

On the flip side, it does seem that, while she's a bit spastic, she does seem to have been genuinely interested in you. Since the final year of college can be quite demanding, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt, lacking any indications to the contrary. There's a good chance that she's more upset about not being able to have a relationship with you because of school than she's letting on, and sometimes impersonal messages like that are used to keep you from seeing how much something bothers the other person.

If you're interested in her, wait until she's done with her education before giving it another shot. Even then, just one more shot... at that point you'll be able to tell if it's been a reason to break up or just an excuse. If you're not interested in waiting, or not interested in another shot, just walk away. Don't be bitter about it... life is too short to be bitter over an inelegant end to a short relationship.

[talaniman]

Walk away from this drama and find something more worthy of your attention. You can't make a confused immature person grow up so move on.

[MCSTRIKE]

I think I could have messed it up though the day she ended it she had started back at uni after xmas break. It got to 7.30pm and I hadn't heard from her so I call her home and her mum answers and I say is @@@@ in please and her mum says sorry she's at out neighbours at moment and I say something stupid like oh not to worry just worried as I isn't heard off her today then she texts me about 5 minutes later saying my lecture from 6-9 got canceled and I am at my neighbours now then got to go to @@@@ and to see @@@@@ after to. Then I ring her don't I been more stupid saying is everything OK have I done something wrong and she replies no have to go I'm at my neighbours so after this I text her and say sorry thought I done something wrong and I don't want to loose you 40 minutes later she ends it. Maybee if I had left her that night and left her alone we would be together now

[Skell]

You met her in October 2006. That means you have known her 4 months max. That's not really a relationship, its just dating and it appears as though it just hasn't worked out.

Put it down to experience and move on being thankful you didn't invest anymore time into someone who it was never going to work out with!