[johnn007]

She break the relationship when I stupiditly April fooled her and told her that I'm blood cancer positive she cried a lot I didn't tell her for whole three days that s I'm just fooling with her that is just April fool but when I told her the truth she stop talking with me she get so much angry that she stop talking to me I did all my best to calm her but she had only one answer leave me so after few months I also quit.that is the first part.

Second part start after a full one year on (3 April 2006) when she came to university for transcription. I didn't knew but I was there as soon as she saw me she start staring and smiling at me I was amazed with looking her and I also smiled we both smiling but neither she proceed to talk not I talked with her but I felt good to see her now I want to talk with her again but afraid that what if she don't reply because she didn't called me for the whole year I want to take another way by talking with her on my cell with another number and don't want disclose my identity and want to send her sms with good poetry about friendship and love but I'm confused any girl or men have good advice for me. I want her back

[valinors_sorrow]

Don't do anything sneaky (like with the cell phone) or send anonymous messages. If she found out, it could raise more suspicions.

It would probably impress her better if you simply called her and asked if you could meet for a conversation. If she asks why, tell her you wantto ask her if she has forgiven you about the past and that you would prefer that kind of conversation face to face (that means you are taking this topic seriously). If she agrees, take it from there.. .

Who knows if you can "have her back" at this point? She is either open or not open to rebuliding trust with you. To find out, you must ask. Just make sure you play a very straight shooter from here on. Show her you learned a valuable lesson from the first mess.

Good luck.

[Krs]

Wow all I had to read was your first sentence...
How stupidly immature and unwitty of you was it to joke with a loved one about cancer. Cancer is one thing you DO NOT joke about.
ITS SICK..
YOU STUPID FOOL.

[Krs]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...back-8969.html

I think you are just wasting our time.
Go find yourself a hobby or something!!

[fredg]

Hi, John,
How old are you? I am 64.
You made a very, very big mistake. I, too, don't have to read the rest of your question or comments; except the last part of "I want her back".
Move on... you made a mistake, lying to her, and at some time or another, many of us have done the same thing, lying. It doesn't work, especially since your topic was Cancer!
Please think about telling the truth, and be honest when you meet the next girl. SMILE, and it shows you like yourself, and others will like you, too.
When meeting someone, listen to them. You can make more friends in a month by listening to them, than you can in a year having them listen to you.
Learn from this humongous mistake, don't do it again, and move on.
Life is learning, accepting what happens to us, doing something about it if we can. If we can't, then move on to the next issue.
I do wish you the best, and I really can't see any way this girl will trust you again.
A good relationship is built on trust, caring, love, respect, and wanting the other to be happy; in many cases, forgetting what we want, in favor of what they want.

[Krs]

I have a feeling this is all a farce
Someone has nothing to do or if its true than he is not taking our advice into consideration because he posted exactly the same thing this time last year...
Its all bu**ocks.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...back-8969.html

[milliec]

I looked at the former thread. First of all, read again wildcat's GREAT answer. It says all there is to say.
Then, take a good look at yourself: have you learnt anything at all? What goes through your mind now? To sneak anonymous messages or under a false name?
She smiled, it doesn't have to say anything at all. She noticed you, she smiled, she went on with whatever she had to do.
If you still wish to make sure it's over (or not). Call her directly, apologize again, show her how you matured. Show her you understand what you did. That it's cruel.
There are some questions, though:
Will she see you?
Have you changed?
Did you grow up, even a little?
Do you understand why it's cruel?
To tell you the truth, I wouldn't come back.
Sorry.
Millie

[DJ 'H']

she break the relationship when i stupiditly april fooled her and told her that i m blood cancer positive she cried a lot i didn't tell her for whole three days that s im just fooling with her that is just april fool but when i told her the truth she stop talking with me she get so much angry that she stop talking to me i did all my best to calm her but she had only one answer leave me so after few months i also quit.that is the first part.

second part start after a full one year on (3 april 2006) when she came to university for transcription. i didn't knew but i was there as soon as she saw me she start staring and smiling at me i was amazed with looking her and i also smiled we both smiling but neither she proceed to talk not i talked with her but i felt good to see her now i want to talk with her again but afraid that what if she dont reply because she didn't called me for the whole year i want to take another way by talking with her on my cell with another number and dont want disclose my identity and want to send her sms with good poetry about friendship and love but i m confused any girl or men have good advice for me. i want her back

It's been a whole year - if she wanted to bewith you, she would have contacted you herself by now! Seriously wasting your efforts!

[Chery]

I wholeheartedly agree with those who tell you to grow up!

First, you don't think too much of yourself to inflict such a seriously dumb implication. Why would you want someone to love you just because you are sick? Did you have to buy or bribe others to be your friend when you were younger? Before you even think about sharing your life with someone else, check yourself and your motives out real good first - with a professional if necessary. Unless you figure out why you need to be dramatic you're not going to be able to have a trusting relationship.

As far as this young lady is concerned, be prepared to just be friends, or forget her completely, because if she has any brains, she already has her life in order and does not need you to mix it up.

Good luck in finding out who you really are.

[J_9]

As was stated before I believe this post is a fake. The original post was in April of 2005, more than a year ago. I believe someone has too much time on their hands

[Chery]

As was stated before I believe this post is a fake. The original post was in April of 2005, more than a year ago. I believe someone has too much time on their hands

Thanks for letting us know this was an old post. I guess it was not noticed soon enough.

At any rate, we can forget this one, but the problems are probably world-wide and not unique. There are a few people that go through drastic measures just to hold on to something that will not last unless they straighten out their own lives first.

Hope to see more of your posts on current issues.

[johnn007]

Sorry for late replying but I want to take all of the comments from anyone. Now I tell you that I loved her I'm not stupid but what I wanted to do just to here her voice at least. I was really ashamed for what I had done I told her but she was not even listening to me but when exactly after one year she cam eback to university and with the pose of her sitting and it was just like that she was waiting for me and it felt me that she want that I proceed towards her that's why I thought I should talk with her but I'm so confused I'm living my life very well and don't have much time as "KRS" said that I seem a person who is fooling around and have much time . What do ireally want I want give so much cheers on her face that made har feel that I'm changed now but she didn't gave me any chance at all in the past year and for now I don't know that the reaction would be same or some what polite than before thank you for all of your advices and comments I feel much beter I will contact with her directly and lets c what happends next

[Krs]

Give up on her.. 1 year is 1 year not 1 week.
If she was interested in having you I think she have made it very loud and clear.

[DJ 'H']

You are just being overy dramatic and reading way too much into stuff that means nothing. If she wanted to speask to you she would have approcahed you herself. If she wanted to be with you then she would have made that known a year a go and would never have let you go in the first place.

Get over yourself and move on. She does not want you and you need to accept that. Stop moping and feeling sorry for yourself and get on with your life. She is - so why can't you?

[johnn007]

Krs what if your thinking is wrong because some other senior member told me to talk with her I f she like than you can proceed and tell her that your changed now

[DJ 'H']

If you want to make yourself look stupid then do so, if you want to ignore our advice then do so - just don't waist our time!

[Krs]

Do whatever you like mate...
But I personally think she is not interested, as its too long, as everyone else stated too, to get over her.

But that is 1 sick joke you played on her and I would not be impressed with an immature joke like that

[CaptainForest]

I agree with KRS.

Last year, the poster said he told her the next day

Now today, he says he waited 3 days!

I agree, probably a farce.

[talaniman]

After a year and you remember what she looked like give yourself 10 points, For being a jerk last year take away 20 points. Do your own math!

[johnn007]

U pplr right I did pass very stupid joke and that its too long to have her back I thought in it and I decide not to contact with her because it will not do anything for me as far as captain forest opininion it doesn't matter how long I played that joke on her, only point is here that I have done wrong, anyway life is long and world is full of mistakes and opportunities . I will improve with the will of God