[sunshine6]

I have been recovering since August 15 2006 from a narcissist X , whom I lived with for 4 yrs CRAZY time , but he ran out then it was our 4yrs together we met in 2002 , he came back to see if I would be around in a small town same date the 15th ,of course I saw him and he saw the look on my face ! I felt he would be around at this time I am right with the feelings I have , he is looking for the attention of old supply I was to react to him Mirroring it's called , I showed emotion so there fore he will be back, I do not feel I would be able to handle him Face to Face in a public place ! He was driving and watching me , I have read about this for 2 yrs , & still do not feel strong enough to face him , this is a Very hard thing to overcome, & I am strong, Have Good friends, I would think he came around on a Sunday morning because it was a the weekend of us 2 yrs & not working on that day, they are so Evil, I still have something for him , because I have not been in another relationship since , I have not found the right person, Man yet & sex I am not ready , What do you think ? He WILL be back, he came around with a Prositute in November of last yr at the restaurant I hang out in my town , he knows I might be there, but I wasn't thank god ! It was around thanksgiving time ! Peace Karen

[Guidostern]

Well Karen, as much as you don't want to face him, eventually you will have to. If he comes back you have to be strong and let him know that things are over. Let him know that nothing he ever does is going to get you to come back to him. Most people would probably give him the cold shoulder here. If you let him continue to manipulate you then you're never going to get anywhere... just be strong and face him for the final time.

[N0help4u]

Sounds like he may just be hoping that his coming around is like rubbing salt in an old wound and just wants to get hurtful reactions out of you so don't play along. Avoid him as best you can and when you do see him get through the time as briefly and expressionless as you possibly can. Don't give him any reactions.

[sunshine6]

Hi ! You are so helpful to me, You answers are true Reality ! I have very Real feelings for this person, no matter how strong I am , and how strong I have been for 2yrs & not seeing him , In your honest opinion , Could you tell me, if I talk to him what does that show him and mean for me , will I look interested, or just want to simply know how he is , because I really care even though he can't feel anything for me , and I have overlooked his illness ,and gave it to God, but I guess I would be made a fool of myself if I speak to him ? Please help me understand , we were Good friends , I was never alone with him, now I am without I am always alone

[N0help4u]

I would just answer his questions as briefly as possible and not show much interest in him with too many questions about him. Just keep it at minimal small talk to where it doesn't get him going with replies where he can brag or make you feel bad about anything.