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Solitude_120 · Aug 3, 2008, 01:56 PM

Well, I've had this friend.. We've been friends for almost a year and a half now. She stopped talking to me about 4 months ago. And I keep iming her, texting her, and asking her why? And she doesn't reply. I've always been a good friend to her.. I just don't understand why she's being this way. I care about her too much to let our friendship go. So, what do I do? I need her to say something.. Just anything you know? But she won't even do that.

Help? : (

ISneezeFunny · Aug 3, 2008, 02:05 PM

I'm assuming something happened on her end that you may not be aware of. Obviously she just plain doesn't want to talk to you. I would suggest that you write her an e-mail, asking her what happened, but it seems that you've already done this.

Only thing I can suggest is to give her some space... perhaps she'll come to her senses with time and approach you. Continuously trying to drag it out of her will only aggravate the situation and make her ignore you further... so I suggest you just move on, and hope for the best.

KissMe10der · Aug 3, 2008, 02:18 PM

I have a friend like that.. he keeps IMing me and emailing me asking me why... It really bothers me.. he won't give me space. When I feel ready to talk, I will.

talaniman · Aug 3, 2008, 08:15 PM

Leave her alone. She clearly wants absolutely nothing to do with you, and you'll never get an answer from someone that's ignoring you.

lionesss-nc · Aug 4, 2008, 06:51 AM

I was on the opposite end of the spectrum. I had a friend who was over bearing, controlling and demanding. She would come to my house and invade my privacy. I also have a disabled child, whom she felt that I was over protecting. My disabled daughter did not handle the cold well. She had older children who periodically babysat for me. I aksed her one rainy day if one of her kids could babysit so I could go grocery shopping. She told me that they were unable to. She then continued to tell me that I should take her with me. The problem was my daughters disability includes sever lung issues and when she is out in the cold and is around anyone who is sick, she gets so sick that she gets hospitalized with pneumonia. So I reminded her that when the weather was bad, I didn't like taking her out because of her constant illness. That was the point when she told me that I was being over protective. I felt that as my friend and having seen what I wnet through on a daily basis with my daughter she should have been more sympathetic. I also tried to explain that to her to no avial. After that I pretty much cut off ties with her because I felt that I dealt with enough in my life and I needed someone who was more supportive, not critical.

I am not sure what your circumstance are, but you might want to look at the last conversation that you and your friend had, and there you might find the clues to the puzzle. Sometimes things are said that are not always heard. She may have told you that she didn't want to be in that type of friendship anymore. If she was being nice about it, you may not have heard it.

Romefalls19 · Aug 4, 2008, 07:02 AM

She's not responding to you, so stop trying to start a conversation with her!

Boristheblade · Aug 4, 2008, 10:19 AM

Harsh but true unfortunately my friend. She doesn't want to talk to you and she's not going to. The more you try to talk to her, the chance of her responding to you decreases.

LostInHisEyez · Aug 4, 2008, 10:25 AM

Ive lost some really good friends over the years and i always make sure to call them for their birthday or write them a quick message if i hear they're sick, because the love is never gone, but you just gotta accept how things are and you just keep making more friends who are going to stick around.

Ash123 · Aug 4, 2008, 11:42 AM

well, you could try:

sky writing...

a singing telegram...

or fedexing a puppy...

... but I don't think much will work, because you are filling the void with noise.

I always believe you have to say what you've got to say and then back off.
So, write an email with your feelings and confusion and hope to make amends for any misunderstanding. Unless you have not done that already.

Then, be silent. If she never contacts you, then it was not to be. Your conscience can be clear.

MsMewiththat · Aug 4, 2008, 11:48 AM

Soul search as suggested above about what may have happened. Let her know that you don't know what happened, you'd like the opportunity to make it right and discuss it. Explain everything you just said on here and then let it go. You can't beat yourself up over someone else's problem and until she tells you what it's about it is just that. HER PROBLEM