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rainbowl3aby · Jul 10, 2012, 10:10 PM

Is this such a thing! I love my wife very much but sometimes I question things... Just for the mere fact that I feel she doesn't know how to be a wife sometimes. Make me smile buy me something small ANYTHING take me somewhere... my birthday is coming and I hope we shall do more that sit at her parents peeling quail eggs!!

chiradeep · Jul 11, 2012, 01:01 AM

Originally Posted by rainbowl3aby

Is this such a thing!?I love my wife very much but sometimes I question things....Just for the mere fact that I feel she doesnt know how to be a wife sometimes. Make me smile buy me something small ANYTHING take me somewhere....my birthday is coming and I hope we shall do more that sit at her parents peeling quail eggs!!!!

I can understand the thoughts that are making you worry. 'Happily Ever After' is a filmy phrase which we use for fun sake. The truth about a marital relationship is much more than that. We have to work out ourselves for our own happiness in a marital bond. Sometimes you won't find romantic partner who can present themselves as you want romantically. Few things to remember in a marital bond. Those are as follows:

1. Know Yourself: This is the most important factor to stay, maintain and grow in any relationship, especially in a marital bond. If a person cannot understand or is unaware of his own feelings and emotions then its very difficult for him to express his needs and expectations to his better half and vice versa. A person has to know and aware what he wants, what he expects and what he needs exactly from his wife and vice versa. Then only he/she can proceed to the next step.

2. Express Yourself: This is the next step after a person understands himself properly. The expressions and interactions should always be clear and simple in a marriage relationship. Usually it has been seen that most husbands hide about their friend circles from their wives and the wives hide few expenses, which they do without asking their husbands. There should be transparency between both of them. They should always be open to each other in every matter and situation.

3. Know Your Partner: Just think if you don't understand your partners feelings and emotions, what will happen. This is the main reason why the families and marriages are broken today. It is very important for a husband and a wife to understand each others feelings and emotions. Beware: Do not take each other for granted.

4. Understand The Effects of Your Behaviours: The behaviour, which is an outward expression, can be fatal sometimes. The spouses should be held responsible for the actions and reactions they show to each other when they are alone together and in the public place as well. In that case each one should think twice before expressing them about the effect or result of their behaviour because they cannot take it back or withdraw later. Each word, each action or reaction has an eternal effect. So the bottom line is the spouses should be responsible for their behaviours.

Dear Friend! You have to express your feelings and desires lovingly and tell her what exactly you love to receive from her.

God bless you!

rainbowl3aby · Jul 11, 2012, 07:06 AM

I do all of that! Like here's the thing we know each other well and I mean very well! I have expressed plenty of times what and how I would like something.
Example: Yesterday she new I was looking forward to going to see a movie. It was a movie date, she new all week and she called me on her lunch break we discussed it. The movie started at 8pm I told her this! I got off at 7 made it home at , she wasn't even ready. I even called her as soon as I was on my way home! So I was really upset, didn't really want to go. We went I laughed the entire movie (as did almost everyone) she sat there didn't laugh once. Then afterward we had to go at 10 at night to eat and get my babies dog food bcause we didn't have time before the movie. OH and let me not forget to mention as we enter walmart she all of a sudden starts feeling bad. Yea OK. Im not dumb she was just tired and ready to get to bed. There are plenty of more examples and she always says She's sorry because she knows Im ill.However sorry over and over begins to grow old. In which I have told her this too!
I love her I DO and I just don't know what to do :/...

C0bra_M3nace · Jul 11, 2012, 07:12 AM

Originally Posted by rainbowl3aby

I do all of that! Like here's the thing we know each other well and I mean very well! I have expressed plenty of times what and how I would like something.
Example: Yesterday she new I was looking forward to going to see a movie. It was a movie date, she new all week and she called me on her lunch break we discussed it. The movie started at 8pm I told her this! I got off at 7 made it home at , she wasn't even ready. I even called her as soon as I was on my way home! So I was really upset, didnt really want to go. We went I laughed the entire movie (as did almost everyone) she sat there didnt laugh once. Then afterward we had to go at 10 at night to eat and get my babies dog food bcause we didnt have time before the movie. OH and let me not forget to mention as we enter walmart she all of a sudden starts feeling bad. Yea ok. Im not dumb she was just tired and ready to get to bed. There are plenty of more examples and she always says Shes sorry because she knows Im ill.However sorry over and over begins to grow old. In which I have told her this too!
I love her I DO and I just dont know what to do :/.......

Sometimes people do go sour with a partner, it's no myth. She could be bored of doing things with you or bored sitting around waiting for you to do things with her, from what it sounds like. You can't sit around and rely on her to do everything, if you love her then do something about it. Take her somewhere, surprise her with a gift. Stop sitting around waiting for her to do something while she gets more and more bored of the everyday routine, no spark, no romance.

If you are doing these things for her, and she is still south about it. Think about moving on, why waste your life on someone who is always miserable and bringing you down.

chiradeep · Jul 11, 2012, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by rainbowl3aby

I do all of that! Like here's the thing we know each other well and I mean very well! I have expressed plenty of times what and how I would like something.
Example: Yesterday she new I was looking forward to going to see a movie. It was a movie date, she new all week and she called me on her lunch break we discussed it. The movie started at 8pm I told her this! I got off at 7 made it home at , she wasn't even ready. I even called her as soon as I was on my way home! So I was really upset, didnt really want to go. We went I laughed the entire movie (as did almost everyone) she sat there didnt laugh once. Then afterward we had to go at 10 at night to eat and get my babies dog food bcause we didnt have time before the movie. OH and let me not forget to mention as we enter walmart she all of a sudden starts feeling bad. Yea ok. Im not dumb she was just tired and ready to get to bed. There are plenty of more examples and she always says Shes sorry because she knows Im ill.However sorry over and over begins to grow old. In which I have told her this too!
I love her I DO and I just dont know what to do :/.......

Dear friend! I can understand the heartache you are having. But she is your wife. You love her. So You need to really be patient with her behavior. Tell her, how hurt you are feeling. Wait & give. They are key words. Don't expect. Just give and wait. I know it looks easy saying all these but very difficult practically. I completely empathize with you. But I believe if you truly loves her you will see a positive result definitely. God bless...

rainbowl3aby · Jul 11, 2012, 07:47 AM

Thanks and I DO give. We don't usually go anywhere on a weeknight so I said hey lets do a movie date. She wasn't expected to pay for anything.
We will be at the mall and I will be buying myself something and Ill say hey do you want something. Shell say I don't have the money I say That's not what I asked. I offer I buy. She NEVER does the same. She helps pay for the got to haves. That's it.

C0bra_M3nace · Jul 11, 2012, 07:52 AM

Originally Posted by rainbowl3aby

Thanks and I DO give. We dont usually go anywhere on a weeknight so I said hey lets do a movie date. She wasn't expected to pay for anything.
We will be at the mall and I will be buying myself something and Ill say hey do you want something. Shell say I dont have the money I say Thats not what I asked. I offer I buy. She NEVER does the same. She helps pay for the got to haves. Thats it.

Maybe she isn't turning out the be the woman you want to be with for the rest of your life. You do indeed have a choice, you aren't stuck with her.

rainbowl3aby · Jul 11, 2012, 07:53 AM

I ask her is she bored with me or ready to call it quits she insists noooo. Also she is quite fine with routine every morning she texts the same thing. And at noon everyday she calls me at work days the same thing. Every Monday She's off work she goes to get parents instead of meeting me for lunch every now and then. Yes I ASK her... :(

C0bra_M3nace · Jul 11, 2012, 07:55 AM

Originally Posted by rainbowl3aby

I ask her is she bored with me or ready to call it quits she insists noooo. Also she is quite fine with routine every morning she texts the same thing. And at noon everyday she calls me at work days the same thing. Every monday Shes off work she goes to get parents instead of meeting me for lunch every now and then. Yes I ASK her..... :(

It doesn't really matter what she feels about the relationship at this point, it's about how you are feeling. If you are not happy, and things are not changing, then leave. If you can't bring yourself to leave her then suck it up. Plain and simple. Life should be lived happily, and not miserably at the hand of another.