[geminisword]

Mine is a long story but I need help
I meet this guy in 2008 while he was finishing grad school.We are both foreigners here in America.After he cleared grad school,his scholarship ended.He did not have a job so he moved in with me.I had a job then.I later conceived.All along he never mentioned his girlfriend back home.I only discovered when I was 6 months pregnant.He later lied to me that they had broken up though I knew he was lying because he constantly called her from my phone and chat the whole night.

Just after I gave birth,he got a job in California and I followed him there after a month.My fears were confirmed when I saw a receipt from western union(money transfer) that his girlfriend back home had sent to him some dollars(I guess to settle in since we didn't have any cash).When I asked him,he said she was barely assisting him and nothing much.

But later,after 5months,I learnt from his emails that he had sent her an angegment ring worth 500 dollars via courier! A month later, I conceive our second child who was born premature at 6months.Tha time,he went back home and they got married,both traditionally and legally.His wife send me a mail on that day warning me to stay away from her husband.

When he came back to America,he denied that he had married her and that she was just lying.But in an email to a friend,he was saying that he is staying with us to save money,but he will move out when his wife arrives! I think he is processing her papers now and she will be here soon.What do I do now?I do not have legal status here so I can't find a job to support myself and the kids.I can't go to court either!
*** help!

[sahar.]

Hi
I am really sorry about that.first of all you got the biggest mistake Bcoz you got pregnant before you get marry to him. Second you should not had to have the second baby.any way , don't worry about it.
I think you better leave your kids there and go back to where you belong to and force him to hold the kids.
About his other wife , she definitely will move back Bcoz the kids are not hers and of cours she does not like to grow up your kids so she will be the looser. Your husband is responsible to take care of your kids.your kids are his kids also so there is no reason for being worry.you love your husband but he does not love you (I guess so) , so there is no reason to waste your life living with him. He is lier and he betrayed you.
Be brave
Wish u all the best...

[Homegirl 50]

Does he pay support for these kids?
Go back home and have him support these kids.
This man has lied to you and he obviously does not want you.
Don't have anymore kids by him.

[talaniman]

How he will explain to his new wife why he has two kids with you is beyond me. But they are his kids then let him pay support for them. I see a lot of court battles in your future so I hope you are smart enough to get some good solid legal advice, and plenty of help and support even if it means seeking out social services to help you out, or going back home where you have legal standing.

Get this guy out of your life, since you seem to fall for any lie that he tells you. Visit your embassy, and see what can be done.

[geminisword]

Thank you all for your response.
Homegirl 50,he doesn't pay child support because at the moment we live together.I am sure he will be moving ouit once his wife gets here.

[amicon]

Then you need to get a lawyer,to protect your children-asap.

And please kick him to the kerb!

[Homegirl 50]

Thank you all for your response.
Homegirl 50,he doesnt pay child support because at the moment we live together.I am sure he will be moving out once his wife gets here.

Why are you two still living together? This guy should be gone. Get yourself a lawyer and make sure he pays child support.