[purchasing01]

Moved to its own thread, and edited.


Me and my girlfriend have been together 3 years, and I have asked her if she would like to get married, or have children in the future, she is 20 and I am 22, she said she doesn't know, but sounds like she doesn't want any, what do I do? I feel very upset.

[talaniman]

You do nothing, because she may be too young right now, to even imagine such a life changing event.

Drop the subject, and enjoy your youth.

[ZoeMarie]

You two are still very young. What's the rush?

[purchasing01]

I just feel like if I stay with her till say I'm 30 years old, and she is 28 and if she still doesn't want to get married or have children I have wasted my life, because I think I do want to get married and possibly have kids


Do I need to break up with her now if I want kids or marridge?


I really love her
??

[teastalk]

Well, if your relationship can withstand the test of time, then you guys will likely get married in the future. I'm not so sure about the parts regarding the kids. Nevertheless, if you guys withstand the test of time, get married, then I'm sure you guys can talk about having kids right before getting married. Then you can make that decision. Perhaps she needs to grow a little bit older in order to figure out exactly what she wants in terms of kids.

[talaniman]

Relax guy, worry about getting to the end of the next month, because who knows what will happen in 8 or 10 years.

You should be enjoying yourself, and not trying to rush a commitment, and babies right now.

[Alty]

If anyone had mentioned marriage and babies to me at 20, I would have ran for the hills.

She's young. She's probably still in college or just settling on a career. Bringing up the harsh reality right now is not a good idea.

Will she change her mind. Probably. I'm 39 now, married for 15 years with 2 kids. At 20 I would have said no way to any of that.

[purchasing01]

Aww thanks so much pepole, you have all been extremely helpful, my also worry is she is quite a big girl, size 16 - 18, and 100kg, I am 6'2 and 70kg, I always go on about excersising to her and try get her too eat healthy an loose some weight, am I doing the right thing? I only want to help her,

[teastalk]

I guess that makes sense. I'm not sure what the conversion is for those measurements, but if you're concerned about her only because of health reasons, I'm sure she understands.

[purchasing01]

And I think she would look more sexy, she is really beatifull, she has tried many diets but she just ekkps giving up, not enough will power

[Alty]

and i think she would look more sexy, she is really beatifull, she has tried many diets but she just ekkps giving up, not enough will power

In the end it's her decision. If it's something she really wants, and has asked for your help, then by all means, help her.

If she hasn't asked for your help, weight can be a touchy subject for women. She may start to feel unattractive to you, or not good enough for you. Just be careful how you say things. We gals can be a bit sensitive when it comes to our weight. ;)

[purchasing01]

Altenweg thanks a lot, that's a beatifull pic on your profile pic, is it you?

[Alty]

altenweg thanks a lot, thats a beatifull pic on your profile pic, is it you?

You're welcome.

No, that picture isn't me. It's just a picture I found on the internet. When I modeled way back when I had a very similar picture taken, so this picture really appealed to me. Reminds me of the old days, when I was a lot younger. :)

[purchasing01]

Oh its nice :) yeah my girlfriend is still studying design, can I ask you something, when she finishes studying she wants to move to australia to where her family has recently moved, I would love to go with her so we can stay together, but my mother thinks staying her is more important as this (nz) is where my family is... the thing is I want to go to the australia mines and drive the trucks there

[Alty]

oh its nice :) yeah my girlfriend is still studying design, can i ask you something, when she finishes studying she wants to move to australia to where her family has recently moved, i would love to go with her so we can stay together, but my mother thinks staying her is more important as this (nz) is where my family is...the thing is i want to go to the australia mines and drive the trucks there

It's hard to leave your family, but if this is your dream, you're an adult, so go for it.

Don't move just to be with her, do it only if this is something you really want for yourself.

I'm sure your family will miss you, but they'll understand. :)

[Alty]

who?

Don't worry about Sean, he's a troll. He's been following me around the site, making snide remarks, insulting me. He doesn't like the fact that I reported him for calling a 13 year old girl a slut and going around the site giving horrible hurtful advice.

Just ignore him. I've reported him to the mods, many times. As soon as one of them comes on line he'll either have the majority of his posts removed and he'll be warned, or he'll be banned.

He'll continue to post wherever I do. Sadly people like this don't really have anything better to do. He'll be gone soon. :)

[purchasing01]

Oh that's good then, lifes to short for people like him? Can you offer me advice for my last question? Thanks :)

[Alty]

oh thats good then, lifes to short for people like him? can you offer me advice for my last question? thanks :)

Life is way too short for people like him. Hopefully he'll grow up one day and start acting like a man instead of a child. We can only hope.

I did answer your last question, you may have missed it with the page change. Just go one page back. ;)

If there's anything else you'd like to ask, feel free. :)

[purchasing01]

maybe move to austraillia and live in the wild with the kangaroos?

Get lost mate,

[purchasing01]

Altenweg, it has not been a dream of mine to go drive the big trucks in the mines but I think I would like to as there is big dollars to be made, and I love my girlfriend a lot so I think I would like to move with her to keep the ball rolling if you get what I mean