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friend4u178 · Apr 12, 2010, 05:26 PM

Man A sounds honest to me from the information you've given.

Man B sounds manipulative by stating you have a deadline , therefore I'd have reservations about what other decisions he'll force upon you in the future.

I'm voting Man A :cool:

JoeCanada76 · Apr 12, 2010, 05:51 PM

Well I think that is more then a few that are saying go with Man A.

Just remember do not base your decision on ours, because either way it is your life you have to live.

You have got more votes for Man A, now it is up to you if your going to take that risk or not.

Wish I could rate answers, but at this time I am not aloud to rate anybody yet... (;

Kitkat22 · Apr 12, 2010, 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976

Well I think that is more then a few that are saying go with Man A.

Just remember do not base your decision on ours, because either way it is your life you have to live.

You have got more votes for Man A, now it is up to you if your going to take that risk or not.

Wish I could rate answers, but at this time I am not aloud to rate anybody yet... (;

Man A is the nine year guy right? ManB is the new one? Nine years is a long time to wait for a commitment. But then Man B is not in the picture yet.. Gosh... Maybe I'll think about this again... :confused:

friend4u178 · Apr 12, 2010, 06:33 PM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Man A is the nine year guy right? ManB is the new one? Nine years is a long time to wait for a committment. But then Man B is not in the picture yet.. Gosh...Maybe I'll think about this again....:confused:

Man A is the LDR guy for 9 months

Man B is friend for 9 years

Showme_urmove · Apr 12, 2010, 11:22 PM

JK191 No relationship is a relationship. I was in a long distance relationship for about 2 yrs doesn't matter where you live or where your from, if you accept a relationship you should accept the responsibility. Its both people sacrificing their time and energy to make things work. If They both agree on having something serious even though its long distance then they should do their best to work it out. That's THE RIGHT WAY OF DOING IT. But if it goes wrong they should end it and not play this BS games and be 13 again.

rainyreal · Apr 13, 2010, 09:01 AM

I want to say thanks for all the advise.. glad to have found this site just wish it were earlier!! Have been going crazy with this whole thing... first let me say again I HAVE BEEN HONEST WITH BOTH MEN!. BOTH know of each other.. MAN A has asked me to marry him... in which I did not accept... need time to think but I did tell MAN B that I was going to be with MAN A when he comes here and see where it goes and what is meant to be will be... best old quote... "if you love something set it free... if it comes back to you it was meant to be.. if it does not it was not yours to begin with... I have no idea who said it I just remember it being on the wall at home when I was growing up... I hate to hurt MAN B and still want us to be friends.. but Ultimitally Man A makes my toes curl and takes my breath away!! THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR THEIR ADVISE!!

Kitkat22 · Apr 13, 2010, 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by rainyreal

I want to say thanks for all the advise..glad to have found this site just wish it were earlier!!! have been going crazy with this whole thing....first let me say again I HAVE BEEN HONEST WITH BOTH MEN!!!!.....BOTH know of each other.. MAN A has asked me to marry him.....in which I did not accept.....need time to think but I did tell MAN B that I was going to be with MAN A when he comes here and see where it goes and what is meant to be will be.....best old quote....."if you love something set it free....if it comes back to you it was meant to be ..if it does not it was not yours to begin with....I have no idea who said it I just remember it being on the wall at home when I was growing up.....I hate to hurt MAN B and still want us to be friends..but Ultimitally Man A makes my toes curl and takes my breath away!!!! THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR THEIR ADVISE!!!!!

You are welcome!

Devorameira · Apr 13, 2010, 09:43 AM

Good luck with man A. Hope you've made the right decision.

rainyreal · Apr 13, 2010, 10:12 AM

All I can do is hope it don't wear off... And if it is not meant to be with him than MAN B is meant to be he will still be around... if not back to single life again!. Only time will tell... I have to tell MAn B that I have made my decision tonight... Hope I don't hurt him to bad!!

Kitkat22 · Apr 13, 2010, 10:25 AM

Originally Posted by rainyreal

All I can do is hope it dont wear off.....And if it is not meant to be with him than MAN B is meant to be he will still be around....if not back to single life again!!!......Only time will tell......I have to tell MAn B that I have made my decision tonight......Hope I dont hurt him to bad!!!

I would say there are more than a few women who will be glad you chose Man A. Man B sounds like a nice guy. I'm sure he'll be fine there are many women out there looking for a nice guy! I do wish you happiness with the toe-curler:D Really Good Luck:)

I do have a suggestion.. Cut the strings completely with man b.. I don't think you have the real true lasting kind of love with him.. if you did you wouldn't even consider being with someone else. I think it will be a relief for him. Man a is the one you want and you have to consider man b as just a friend.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, he already knows in his heart. He'll find someone who loves him he'll get over you. As I said before there are nice , lovely women out there who will help him. Break the string completely.. Good Luck

vanheart · Apr 13, 2010, 06:38 PM

What you are doing is wrong.

How would you feel if Man A, B or C had a Woman A, B or C?

And was lying to you & everyone else?

Totally lame.

Figure out what it is you want & be honest to yourself & everyone else.

This is disrespectful for everyone involved.

Kitkat22 · Apr 13, 2010, 06:57 PM

Originally Posted by vanheart

What you are doing is wrong.

How would you feel if Man A, B or C had a Woman A, B or C?

And was lying to you & everyone else?

Totally lame.

Figure out what it is you want & be honest to yourself & everyone else.

This is disrespectful for everyone involved.

Something tells me man B will do just fine. I think he probably

Feels a little ashamed for putting up with it as long as he has.

I have a feeling the toe curler will wear thin very quickly. By then I really hope Man B finds a sweet, lovely, honest lady and he will.

vanheart · Apr 13, 2010, 07:08 PM

He will be fine because he will be away from her.

To no longer get his heart screwed with.

Never rated people before.

You the kind of girl I stay away from.

Kitkat22 · Apr 13, 2010, 07:09 PM

Originally Posted by vanheart

He will be fine because he will be away from her.

To no longer get his heart screwed with.

Never rated people before.

You the kinda girl I stay away from.

Like I always say what goes round!:rolleyes:

vanheart · Apr 13, 2010, 07:11 PM

True that. Karma.

Kitkat22 · Apr 13, 2010, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by vanheart

true that. Karma.

Yep !:(

Showme_urmove · Apr 13, 2010, 09:11 PM

You guys are all right. If man A was doing it to her I don't think she would like it. People have feelings to and it doesn't matter if its long distance or not, relationship is relationship.

Kitkat22 · Apr 14, 2010, 03:58 AM

Originally Posted by Showme_urmove

you guys are all right. If man A was doing it to her i dont think she would like it. People have feelings to and it doesnt matter if its long distance or not, relationship is relationship.

Exactly... I don't think Man B will be available when she finds out the toe curler is lust and Man B is the true one. It will be two late. :)

JoeCanada76 · Apr 14, 2010, 04:13 AM

If the Man B was the true one, then why would they only be friends for 9 years. And on top of that why would Man B the one that is supposed to be best friend for years threaten that friendship if she decides to see Man A, when nothing has developed with Man B all these years.?

Kitkat22 · Apr 14, 2010, 04:25 AM

Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976

If the Man B was the true one, then why would they only be friends for 9 years. and on top of that why would Man B the one that is supposed to be best friend for years threaten that friendship if she decides to see Man A, when nothing has developed with Man B all these years.???

Maybe she talked about Man A lot. Man B wasn't so sure of her true feelings, so he waited... good thing he did. What if Man B and her had been married and Man A came into her life... Goodby Man B. Hello Man A.
Hello divorce court. Maybe if it doesn't work out with Man A, which I don't think it will,( he makes her toes curl that's lust.) then there will be a Man C and she can try to decide between the New man C and Old man A..
Man B will not wait around on her.. If he does he's an idiot... :eek: