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kctiger · Aug 12, 2009, 05:58 AM

Adam we all have those types of days. The trick is to get through them and keep on keeping on... life's a garden man... DIG IT! ;)

adam_89 · Aug 12, 2009, 06:03 AM

I will dig the whole garden Kc

J_9 · Aug 12, 2009, 06:23 AM

Originally Posted by adam_89

I don't want people to think I am crazy.

Dude, depression doesn't mean you are crazy.

Look at it this way... If you were diabetic would you take insulin? If you had high blood pressure would you take medicine?

These are examples of chemical imbalances that medication can correct. Depression is also a chemical imbalance. It has nothing to do with being "crazy." It just means that you are either lacking in certain chemicals or you have too many chemicals (natural chemicals) running through your body that needs to be adjusted through medication.

Depression is not the same as it was YEARS ago when they put people in institutions. It is now recognized as a medical problem that can be treated as can disorders that I have mentioned above.

talaniman · Aug 12, 2009, 06:32 AM

Seeing a doctor for a check up, and to ask questions, is a good way to take care of yourself. That's the greatest thing to do for ones self, is to be good to yourself, and get healthy, in mind body and soul.

adam_89 · Aug 12, 2009, 06:48 AM

Do I even want to know what the medication would cost if I was to be subscribed some?

albear · Aug 12, 2009, 07:07 AM

Hi Adam :)

The cost can mount up easily, adam, especially if your on a low income.

I really admire your guts for being able to create a post like this, really :)

How long have you been feeling like this, if you don't mind me asking.

adam_89 · Aug 12, 2009, 08:19 AM

Thanks Bear. It took a lot, but I needed to get how I felt out on the table without someone thinking I was crazy.

I feel like that from time to time, like right about now I am having one of those moments where I feel like I am at the bottom and keep going lower and I don't even want to go anywhere.

albear · Aug 12, 2009, 08:29 AM

Yeah I totally understand, really :)

And I sincearly doubt anyone here would think you were crazy :)

adam_89 · Aug 12, 2009, 08:42 AM

Yea, I was hoping that is why I could open up a little bit here. Here is where I can have a little fun too. So that is nice.

albear · Aug 12, 2009, 08:51 AM

Yea, there is a great community here as you know, and its great that you feel safe enough to open up :)

Stringer · Aug 12, 2009, 09:24 AM

Hey Adam, I just found your thread too.

Accomplishment builds self confidence, I think that you have accomplished a lot for a 20 year old; your attitude towards others is good, your personality is just fine, people like you, you aren't negative towards others, you are moral, you are a helpful person; accomplishments.

At 20 years old you are in a good relationship, you own a home, you have a steady job, a family orientated person, easy to like, honest; accomplishments

Want some encouragement? Take a look at this website, not saying that we all shouldn't continue our education however internal fortitude has a lot to say with what else we can accomplish also;

The College Dropouts Hall of Fame: Famous college dropouts, successful college dropouts, and rich college dropouts

And, you are a good friend, I certainly appreciate that.

Stringer

slapshot_oi · Aug 12, 2009, 09:44 AM

I don't know man it just sounds like your bored, you mentioned being at your job for two years and it being old. It can get hard to appreciate what you already have when you see it all the time.

Stringer's right, accomplishments builds confidence. You just got to take risks and get out of the rut.

dreamingartist · Aug 12, 2009, 09:59 AM

I would add that maybe you should work out? You mentioned you aren't happy with your appearance? Why not work out a bit... build up some endorphins. Not only will it make you feel better, it will also make your girlfriend feel better, and she sounds like a great girl. It's a nice way to show her that you want to look your best for her and you. It will also help with some of the energy you are giving off, as well as giving you goals to work towards and accomplisments when you achieve them. Ie: lose 5 lbs (1 goal). Bench your body weight, etc.. Remember you are only 20, you have plenty of time in life to do things, why not start today?

adam_89 · Aug 12, 2009, 10:34 AM

I don't like my appearance but she loves the way I look and says she wouldn't change a thing about me. I was up to 260 at one point and in a month lost 20 pounds from a diet a I was on. I would like to lose more but she doesn't want me to. I dress in the most up to date clothes and everything and I might be attractive, I don't know. I get hit on all the time and get asked on dates which is weird because it is usually the other way around. Of course I am taken and completely happy with her its just always the what if. Not the what if I wasn't with her but what if she isn't with me. I used to be pretty fit. When I was weighing 185 I was benching 225 and that was great but now I probably couldn't bench 185 so that would just be depressing in itself.

Thank you Stinger for making me see things differently.

Alty · Aug 12, 2009, 10:42 AM

Adam, I've seen your picture, you are a good looking guy. There, ego stroke. ;)

Also, 260, depending on your height, isn't that bad for a guy. Also, muscle weighs more then fat, so remember that.

It seems to me that everyone else is happy with the way you look, you're the one that's not. It's always hard for us to see what others see. We all hate something about ourselves.

For instance, I hate my nose, I'd love to get a nose job. Also, I have bye bye arms. You know, when you wave and the flab on your arms continue to wave after you're done. ;)

You have to learn to love who and what you are. It's not easy, but remember, you're your own worst critic.

thewiseoldwoman · Aug 12, 2009, 10:47 AM

You'll have to think better of yourself in order to give yourself a better life. Start with the simple act of loving yourself. Extend that to self respect and go from there. A check up with the doctor to rule out depression can help. There are new good drugs to help those who suffer forms of depression and there are therapists and psychologists who can help you with your thinking. I hope you take advantage of all the things that could help.

crisluvsu731 · Aug 12, 2009, 10:58 AM

Well, I know this is so common of someone to say this, but I am a strong believer in this. For anyone to love you, you have to love yourself. If you are constently putting yourself down, it isn't very attractive. Women like a man with confidence. Maybe you should work on yourself, before you worry about her.

albear · Aug 12, 2009, 11:12 AM

Originally Posted by thewiseoldwoman

You'll have to think better of yourself in order to give yourself a better life. Start with the simple act of loving yourself. Extend that to self respect and go from there. A check up with the doctor to rule out depression can help. There are new good drugs to help those who suffer forms of depression and there are therapists and psychologists who can help you with your thinking. I hope you take advantage of all the things that could help.

Loving yourself is not so simple, it may be to some, but to others it can be really difficult, take my word for it

Stringer · Aug 12, 2009, 11:30 AM

Originally Posted by adam_89

I don't like my appearance but she loves the way I look and says she wouldn't change a thing about me. I was up to 260 at one point and in a month lost 20 pounds from a diet a i was on. I would like to lose more but she doesn't want me to. I dress in the most up to date clothes and everything and I might be attractive, I don't know. I get hit on all the time and get asked on dates which is wierd because it is usually the other way around. Of course I am taken and completely happy with her its just always the what if. Not the what if I wasn't with her but what if she isn't with me. I used to be pretty fit. When I was weighing 185 I was benching 225 and that was great but now I probably couldn't bench 185 so that would just be depressing in itself.

Thank you Stinger for making me see things differently.

You are welcome Adam, I am sure that everyone here that knows you feels the same way as I do bud.

Stringer

Stringer · Aug 12, 2009, 11:33 AM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Adam, I've seen your picture, you are a good looking guy. There, ego stroke. ;)

Also, 260, depending on your height, isn't that bad for a guy. Also, muscle weighs more then fat, so remember that.

It seems to me that everyone else is happy with the way you look, you're the one that's not. It's always hard for us to see what others see. We all hate something about ourselves.

For instance, I hate my nose, I'd love to get a nose job. Also, I have bye bye arms. You know, when you wave and the flab on your arms continue to wave after you're done. ;)

You have to learn to love who and what you are. It's not easy, but remember, you're your own worst critic.

I agree with Tal, wise words Alty. Sometimes being a self critic can work in a positive, a way to challenge yourself with the goals that were mentioned prior on here by other posters Adam.