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    #21

    Jun 26, 2009, 07:10 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    I said from the beginning. if one person is having conversations with another in secret, they don't want their significant other to know about it or the extent of it, IMO this is cheating.
    I agree, Most affairs start as emotional, also I like to add if it feels wrong, then it is wrong.
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    Jun 26, 2009, 07:11 AM

    Yep I agree, if you can't tell you S/O about a conversation that you have between a member of the opposite sex, then it's probably not a good idea to have that conversation.
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    Jun 26, 2009, 08:29 AM

    Workplace friends are often close, that's pretty natural, and since it stays at work, why would the wife even be mad? I think its more about their own relationship, than anything that happens at work.

    To be fair friends often have strong bonds, or emotional ties, but as long as there are no secrets from any ones partners, I would not consider the interactions as cheating. If a person stays within the boundaries of good behavior there should be no problems. When there is, you have to recognize the real cause of the problem.

    I also think your friends wife has her own issues, that he needs to deal with her about.

    To answer your question though, I always thought emotional cheating was something that takes away from the relationship, usually done in secret, but can be done in the open at the expense of the relationship. Like not including your partner in activities, or spending way too much time with others, instead of your partner.
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    Jun 26, 2009, 08:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Workplace friends are often close, thats pretty natural, and since it stays at work, why would the wife even be mad?? I think its more about their own relationship, than anything that happens at work.

    To be fair friends often have strong bonds, or emotional ties, but as long as there are no secrets from any ones partners, I would not consider the interactions as cheating. If a person stays within the boundaries of good behavior there should be no problems. When there is, you have to recognize the real cause of the problem.

    I also think your friends wife has her own issues, that he needs to deal with her about.

    To answer your question though, I always thought emotional cheating was something that takes away from the relationship, usually done in secret, but can be done in the open at the expense of the relationship. Like not including your partner in activities, or spending way to much time with others, instead of your partner.
    I agree... I think the real issue is between her and him and because of past experiences I am the easy target... But outside of work him and I have no connection. I see him at work and that is all.

    Thank you everyone for you opinions and views they have been very insightful...
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    #25

    Jun 26, 2009, 09:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Angella View Post
    Your in a emotional relationship and it is not fair on your partner. Does your partner know about your relationship, if not ask yourself why?.....bottom line you have something to hide. I strongly suggest you stop it now, before it becomes more than emotional
    I think you need to read the whole message board... I am NOT in an emotional connection.
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    #26

    Jun 26, 2009, 09:28 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Angella View Post
    Your in a emotional relationship and it is not fair on your partner. Does your partner know about your relationship, if not ask yourself why?.....bottom line you have something to hide. I strongly suggest you stop it now, before it becomes more than emotional
    Read the entire thread. This is not about her.
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    Jun 26, 2009, 12:56 PM
    I think the problem is between your friend and his wife, unless there's something else we don't know. Does he talk about you constantly at home, or something?

    You're not seeing him outside of work, or talking on the sly... perhaps he and his wife need counseling to figure out why they don't have good conversations. For certain, they need counseling to hash out his past behavior and her resulting jealousy/suspicious behavior.
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    Jun 26, 2009, 01:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ren6 View Post
    I think the problem is between your friend and his wife, unless there's something else we don't know. Does he talk about you constantly at home, or something?

    You're not seeing him outside of work, or talking on the sly...perhaps he and his wife need counseling to figure out why they don't have good conversations. For certain, they need counseling to hash out his past behavior and her resulting jealousy/suspicious behavior.
    As far as I know once we leave this building we are stuck in he goes his way and I know I go mine... His wife and I got along great at first and then recently it's just become wores. Who knows... She does obviously have issues with what he has done in the past but I don't want to be seen as the person causing the issues now.

    But no outside of work we do not communicate.
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    #29

    Jun 26, 2009, 01:29 PM

    This is simple... I would consider it cheating based on the fact that when you are in a relationship you are in it, or at least you should be in it for a life long partnership trying to find that special someone... you are with them for that emotional bond. If you don't have that bond then you only have sex with the person that you are with... now with the one that you are talking to the one who you might be considered to have an affair with wel that seems more like a relationship then the one you are currently conducting.
    If you don't give your significant other your heart then when are you giving them?

    Hope that helped!
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    Jun 26, 2009, 01:47 PM

    If you feel a voice inside your little head telling you to seek a answer, (you are cheating) . You are worried about what could or may happen. If you feel nothing and have nothing to be ashamed of and you yet you KNOW that you are true to the one you love, then it's not.

    My guess would be in this case it is or you are worried about it becoming more. Only because you are making such a BIG deal of it.

    Remember we have the right to choose. Nothing can take our will from us unless we give it willingly.
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    #31

    Jun 26, 2009, 02:02 PM

    Anything beyond friendship is cheating, emotionally or physically.
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    #32

    Jun 26, 2009, 05:02 PM

    I have not nor feel I am in any type of emotional relationship!
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    #33

    Jun 26, 2009, 05:59 PM
    I dont think it is cheating. Because having feelings for another person is completely normal when you are dating someone else. There is nothing physical right? its not cheating... although it is better if they ask just to tell the truth... This has happened to me befor and i had to learn the hard wayy. Never Lie.

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