[XM8]

Glad to hear you're doing well. How many days of NC has it been now?


-Xm8

[DJ28]

Glad to hear you're doing well. How many days of NC has it been now?


-Xm8

Well it was yesterday morning when I said I would do it again and this time for good. So yeah

[DJ28]

Well feeling kind of down and lonely right now so I'm thinking of going to see taken, anyone see that yet, is it any good? Lol I love going to shows by myself.. kind of sucks but at least you don't have to worry about anyone talking to you.

[XM8]

Hey well that's a great idea if you're feeling down. Can't say much about the movie, I haven't seen it unfortunately. It sounds good though, however I strongly recommend seeing Valkyrie - amazing film.

And yea I always go to the movies alone, and try to avoid otherwise because I like to be left alone most of the time. Unless I had a girl friend, which is unlikely I guess..

-Xm8

[DJ28]

Well I wrote a letter that I wish I could send to my ex but I know I shouldn't, here it is though for you guys to look at what do you think?

Well steph, looks like this is the end of the road for us isn't it? Look I've had so much time to think about us that really has driving me nuts, but let me tell you one thing that I have learned. I really do not think that for the past year or maybe more that you really have been friends with me, I really don't think you care about me actually I know you don't care for me at all. You forget about me like a piece of carbage, you never once while our friendship was in trouble to help to fix things or work things out, I mean really what kind of friend would be that heartless, not even just a friend a best friend, at least I thought. I really just think you are so full of yourself and only care about yourself. I mean really you have not showed me one bit that you care about me or fix this friendship. Our friendship is so wrecked now though that I know it will never work again, really I do not think I can ever look at you again because you make me so mad. It hurts me to no end that my best friend would treat me like I am a worthless piece of crap. It just sucks that I spent so much time and effort out of my own life to fix something that didn't even mean anythign to you. I cared about you so much I would have done anything for you, and you can forget about me in a week, wow steph congrats on not caring. Its sad though that I know we will never be friends again, and will never talk again its really hard. I don't even know who you are anymore you certinly arnt the same person I met, definitely now. You hurt me so much more then katie ever did, so really good job on that I hope your proud about that. It sucks, I try to call you and I wonder if your just ignoring my phone calls, really I think you are. How can you be so insensitive, really steph I want to know? To your once best friend, I mean doesn't anything bother you or are you that cold? I mean geez even after I knew you had feelings for aj I still wanted to try to work things out, what is your deal? But you still won't even give me the time of day. What did I ever do to you? Whatever though you have made me really dislike you so much that honestly I really do not ever want to be friends with you again, because really why would I be friends with someone that doesn't even care about me one bit, why waste my time. Obviously your not spending any time trying to fix anything. You turned in to such a bad friend because your to self involved. But whatever I know I'm the better person who treats friendships like they mean something other then you. Really I don't know if it was your objective to make me dislike you so much or what but you did a good job in doing it.

[XM8]

Hmm..

DJ... I read your letter and here's what I think. You're obviously heart broken, that's clear. You mentioned that over and over in your letter as well. Now writing that letter was a good idea to get those feelings out - but for heaven's sake don't send it.
Do you actually think she's going to read it? She might do, but she most certainly won't bother replying - she doesn't give a crap.

You're just wasting your time and effort on some b*tch. Forget her dude, take her out of your life - those memories you had with her, even the good ones - you have to realise that maybe she mever was sinceir so they're just as bad as the sh*ty times.

Really, I can't stress this enough - forget her completely, she doesn't give a damn so the only way you are going to get back at her is doing the Same thing. Cus as long as you keep calling her, and contacting her you are making her feel superior - like she's "needed".

Make a list of things, reasons of why she's a b*tch and read that every time you're feeling down - it works and isn't hard to do. (Carry it around in your pocket or something).

Keep it real buddy,

-Xm8

[SAB123]

DJ, Have you ever heard of plenty of fish.com It's a free dating site. There are different categories of dating like long term, dating and friends. I maybe would check out the one in the friend section and the one in friend section only. I joined match a couple of months after my ex broke up with me and it did help a little but did not actually date because I was still in love with ex but it did give me confindence again after a while. But you are not dating material just yet. I wouldn't start dating until you are healed, it would only be a rebound anyway.But maybe start looking for someone in your area to get too know. But don't talk about ex.

[XM8]

Looks like DJ's out having fun, or bombed out on his bed. I hope it's the former lol


-Xm8

[DJ28]

Well today has been a very up and down day today, I've cried a lot today and also have been happy. Right now though well actually about 30 min ago I think I have finally accepted that this thing is totally over and done with. In a way I was hoping she would call me but she never did, it proved to me that she doesn't care about me anymore and that it is now my time to move on just like she has. A lot of the stress that I have been feeling today has almost completely gone away, so I'm happy about that. I'm hoping that tomorrow will be a good day, maybe a day of clam that I haven't felt for quite a while now.

[Dare81]

Well today has been a very up and down day today, ive cried a lot today and also have been happy. right now though well actually about 30 min ago i think i have finally accepted that this thing is totally over and done with. in a way i was hoping she would call me but she never did, it proved to me that she doesnt care about me anymore and that it is now my time to move on just like she has. a lot of the stress that i have been feeling today has almost completely gone away, so im happy about that. im hoping that tomorrow will be a good day, maybe a day of clam that i havnt felt for quite a while now.

It's a roller coaster, lot of highs and lows, hang on tight.
Good Luck

[XM8]

Yea man keep it real. I know you must have (maybe still are) constantly checking your phone, seeing if you got any missed calls or text messages or something like that - but screw that dude, let it go. You don't need her.

I myself got some flashbacks of my ex-girlfriend today. we used to lie down in the grass during the sun shine, I'd have my arm around her and it was heaven. Now it's all gone, what can I do? Pretty much nothing, so screw it.. she shat on me and buggered off, I got to accept it and deal with it. I'll find satisfaction one day.

Stay true to yourself buddy,

-Xm8

[SAB123]

Well today has been a very up and down day today, ive cried a lot today and also have been happy.

I had a lot of up and down days and I cried like a little baby for 4-5 months after my ex dumped me again, but as time went on they were less frequent. I can honestly say my last cry was between the 6-7 month. And you say you have been happy this is a good sign, it's probably going to only last a couple of days but for me that was normal thing I went through.

right now though well actually about 30 min ago i think i have finally accepted that this thing is totally over and done with.

You can't give time frame on when you have accepted it is over. In fact I again did this same thing, then a couple of days later I was back crying and could not again accept it was over. You'll Know in your heart when you've accepted it's over.

in a way i was hoping she would call me but she never did,

Well, if you accepted it's over and you don't want to take her back you would not be hoping she was going to call you. Because when you are over her, your not going to care if she calls you.

it proved to me that she doesnt care about me anymore and that it is now my time to move on just like she has.

You know what she may still care for you but she doesn't want to be with you. And like you said she has moved on and yes you should too. BUT, it's easier said then done for the person who got dumped. For in most cases the person who is the dumpee know in advance they are going to break up with that person.

a lot of the stress that i have been feeling today has almost completely gone away, so im happy about that. im hoping that tomorrow will be a good day, maybe a day of clam that i havnt felt for quite a while now.

you are still hurt and you can't give how are when this pain you feel is going to end. It all depends on the person and how long you've been with that person and what was done. YOU will get better and move on. I can honestly say it took me a almost a 1 1/2 years to totally get over her. And yes it's been 2 years know and I do still think about her from time to time but the hurt is almost gone. And it's a great feeling being able to move on after a break. And you will be their in time my friend.

[DJ28]

SAB132 thanks for the reply, one question for you though. Did she every try getting a hold of you again or anything or did she totally forget about you? I do know that if the ex tries calling that I will not answer or call her back, right now at least I want her to know that she lost something special and she will never get it back. She did email me today but I will not write her back, I want her to completely miss me and know she f**ked up and feel a little hopeless.

[DJ28]

She emailed me today and here is one of the things she said

I'll never forget about you or think poorly of you. I wish you the best in life and hope that you can get past me quickly and move onto bigger and better things. I think we both got complacent and comfortable with how our friendship was, and its best that we both move on.

Steph

It hurts in a way because I feel like she has moved on so quickly, but as someone said she was the breakee so she kind of prepared for this and is already mindset on it. Its nice what she said but it makes me mad in a way because I feel like she didn't try one bit to keep our friendship alive. And honestly I know its better that we didn't. Its just hard when you thought to be best friend didn't do anythign at all the whole time, while I spent everyday doing everything possible to keep it alive. I sometimes hate that I care so much about things. It gets me in to trouble like this.

[jmw0713]

Well, at least you know you are capable of caring for someone as much as you did for her. There are thousands of people who wish they had someone like you in their lives right now. It will only be a matter of time before you find them. When you do, you will realize what it is like to be respected and truly loved.

[SAB123]

SAB132 thanks for the reply, one question for you though. did she every try getting a hold of you again or anything or did she totally forget about you? i do know that if the ex tries calling that i will not answer or call her back, right now at least i want her to know that she lost something special and she will never get it back. she did email me today but i will not write her back, I want her to completely miss me and know she f**ked up and feel a little hopeless.

DJ, Yes she did come back to me 6 times. This last break up she did do her normal thing and stalk me and drive past and wave a few times. I did not wave back. Deep down I wanted her back but I just could deal with the drama of another break up.But my story was a little different from the normal break up.

[DJ28]

So I just remembered today that my ex left her bike at my house and I know she is going to want it. Could someone give me some advise on the best way to go about this is, like getting it back to her or whatever.

[UnluckyDucky]

Best thing to do here is get a third party involved, a friend of yours or hers or mututal friend. Don't risk getting in contact with her directly as it will only set you back and delay your healing further.

[Dare81]

So i just remembered today that my ex left her bike at my house and i know she is going to want it. could someone give me some advise on the best way to go about this is, like getting it back to her or whatever.

Do nothing. She has not asked for the bike has she? When she does you can figure out a way then to return it to her. Breaking NC will only set you back

[zeeniee]

I would get someone to return it and anything else that needs returning- this way it is done and well your free and can concentrate on you. You will have nothing on her to hold you, or hold her.