[dazzling]

Absolutely not, you are doing the right thing.

When a man who did not treat u right, when he had the chance suddenly want to b "friends" means he want to have his cake & eat it too. He want to continue to have u in his, life use your opinion, your emotions, and has no intention of changing himself.

U deserve better than to waste time with him, even to be his friends. There is lots of people to be friends with and u want to give your time to someone who values u. (even a pet is better)

You are brave enough to move on. That's is the best way. Don't return any of his texts ever again. Unless by some chance u want to have a relationship with him.

I am proud of u, not too many women can make the emotional cut off as u have done, and these women end up suffering, hoping against hope that by some miracle "he will change".

[Wondergirl]

You are doing the exactly right thing, whether he was nice to you or not.

The whole point of breaking up and doing no contact is not talking or being with each other for a long time, maybe for years, and meanwhile moving forward with your life. The moving forward part is the really important part.

[R1U1S1T1Y1]

Now I don't think your being mean but I don't think your doing the right thing I'm sure all he wants is a friendship and if he wants something more than that you always have the power to stop
But that's what I think

[a-s-m-i-8-9]

Of course you are doing the right thing
People don't change that easily but you never know
Good luck :)

[babyshooter11]

My ex has been texting and emailing me a lot recently(I'm trying to do the whole no contact thing). It's the holidays and he's been wishing me a good holiday and what not and I try to ignore his texts and emails but I noticed that it was getting harder and harder for me to ignore him. He doesn't seem to stop trying to get a hold of me. I don't know why. He was the one who dumped me and broke my heart. I was just trying to make sure that this whole break up thing was permanent, so that he would see how much of a fool he was for ever hurting me. So I've blocked him from emailing me but the other night I finally cut off all communication with him. I blocked his number on my phone. Now, it's practically impossible for him to get a hold of me. But the thing is for some reason I'm going nuts right now. I've been really sad and miserable lately. I have no idea why. Before all of this I was on the road to completely forgetting about him. But recently I've been crying a lot more and thinking about him a lot more. Does anybody know what's going on with me?

[roxypox]

break ups are hard, and to suddenly not have any contact with a person you used to see and talk to all the time is a tough thing to do. So even though there are probably good reasons for the break up I think its pretty natural for you to miss him.

especially when you show progress and then there is a sudden increase in contact... considering you tried to follow NC and then he broke it and pulled you back in, emotionally that is.


blocking his number and his email sounds like a good idea. I had to do this with my x as well, he kept calling and text and sending me mails, and it really does something to you.

even if you felt like you were doing better, it just drags up emotions, for me it was frustration and anger, b\c I saw it as lac k of respect for me as a person and for my choices and decisions, and for you it was sadness.

you're just going through the motions, I think so at least. So just be sad for a while if you feel sad, personally I'm a fan of not suppressing emotions when you have them, that way they can't build up and become unmanageable.

I hope this helped, at least some!

[babyshooter11]

I broke up with this guy about 2 months ago. To make the long story short, he really broke my heart. And when I say he really broke my heart I mean that I have never felt so betrayed by anyone in my whole life. I've been struggling to get over this break up ever since. I don't talk to him and I rarely hear from him. Is it wrong that everyday I can't help but think about him and that I wish that one day he will feel like a complete idiot for breaking my heart? I just wish that one day he will feel the same pain that I did and when he does I hope he thinks of all the messed up things he ever did to me. If this is wrong, how do I control these thoughts?

[Mikeym]

Well I can honestly say I have been one of them idiots at one point,

My girlfriend decided to go off with my best mate, as a guy you have to realise we need to drop contact with the girl altogether to get over something... that's what I did, I know its childish but it did hurt me... a lot! I wouldn't talk to her or look at her when she does be at partys with my friend but it worked and now I'm seeing someone who respects me... I hope...

Your guy will come soon enuf don't worry :)