[babyshooter11]

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Ok so I started dating this guy named kyle. He's the most amazing boyfriend I have ever had. I don't mean to sound so explicit but his sex was by far the best I have ever had. I think that's the only reason I really fell for him. But I don't get why it's so hard to get over him if all I wanted him for is sex.

This guy is known for being a big time player (which is why his sex was so good). While we were dating I used to go through his phone and find messages he had sent to other girls promising to have sex with them. It drove me absolutely crazy finding messages on his phone like that. It happened lots of times which is why I doubt that he has never cheated on me. But I no matter what I stayed completely faithful to him and forgave him each time he screwed up. I felt like I haven't done anything wrong to him. He got kicked out of his house and I let him live with me. He was 18 and didn't have a job or anything and I'm still in high school so I don't have a job either. Anyway he couldn't really support himself. So my mom felt bad for him and I convinced my mom to help him out a little bit. And when I say a little bit I mean A LOT. My mom treated him like he was her own son. She paid for his car insurance, cell phone bill, food, clothes and anything that he ever wanted. He even got an allowance from her. And as for myself I treated him like a king. I cooked. Cleaned. Did his laundry while he sat on his butt playing video games all day. And on top of that this guy was still so disrespectful to me. He still flirted with other girls and asked sex from them and he was very controlling. He never let me see any of my friends because he didn't like any of them and I wasn't allowed to talk to any guys at all. And I did everything he asked.

One day he popped the question and got me this 14k gold ring. He also got my initials tattooed on his ankle(which really didn't mean a lot because his best friend is a tattoo artist so if we broke up he could get the tattoo cover for free). But it still meant a lot to me because no guy as ever done anything like that for me before... EVER.

Well eventually I guess he got sick of living with me and moved back to his parent's house. His parents live in a different town that's about an hour from where I live so it was hard to see him. I only got to see him on the weekends. It was so hard because I couldn't trust him after all that he did to me. And every time I would call him during the week days he would be out getting drunk with a bunch of his "friends" who were girls. So we fought and fought and fought everyday since he had moved back with his parents which was about two weeks. One day he got sick of it and said it was over but he said that one day we might get back together. He even gave me his dead uncle's necklace as a reminder that one day he would come back. At first I tried so hard to act like everything was OK. We stayed friends for a few days and still talked to each other like we were dating. Then five days later I lost it and practically got down on my knees and begged for him back. But he wouldn't take me back. He said that he didn't want to be with me if he couldn't live with me but at the same time he refused to move back in with me which really didn't make any sense to me at first until I found out the worst thing ever. He already found a new girlfriend. It had only been like five days since we broke up and he already found somebody else!

It's been driving me crazy! And on top of that I had the password to his email and I read all of the emails him and his girlfriend sent to each other and it was horrible! He told her all of these lies like I couldn't take a hint that he didn't want me (even though he kept promising me he would come back). He made it seem like I was constantly bugging him and was obsessed with him (which I was but I never showed it). Which was completely untrue. I made myself as scarce as possible. They even called me a baby and said I was being immature and how I can't handle anything because I'm so much younger then both of them. But just the fact that he made me seem so desperate was so embarrassing! I was furious so I cut all ties that I had with him. I completely got rid of my phone so that I wouldn't ever be tempted to text or call him.

But now it feels so wrong. I feel so empty and sad. I feel so betrayed and I can't seem to get over him. I was just trying to do what's right and lose all contact with him and let him move on with his life. And to think one day I did message him to let him know that he left some stuff at my house he responded "you know if you wouldn't have ignored me, we would have been back together by now". It made me feel horrible. I want him back but I can't get over what he's done! I just want to forget about him I wish I didn't even care about him! But for some reason I miss him so much even after all he put me through! I never saw this coming. I treated him so well. I don't believe I deserve this. I just don't get why he gets to have the time of his life and I'm sitting at home crying my eyes out every night. What do I do?

[Romefalls19]

He cheated on you, lied to you, disrespected you and your family, they kill people for less in some countries and your willing to take him back? Do you like the punishment?

Ignore him! Get your own life and rebuild from the ground up. Don't make someone your priority when you are just an option(Sorry Tal, it's great advice)

[kctiger]

Nobody deserves that... and, guess what, he doesn't deserve you, SO MOVE ON!

[NeedKarma]

You dated a "player" and all you "wanted him for is sex". You read his emails and snoop on his phone messages. Yes, there's something wrong here.

[talaniman]

I just don't get why he gets to have the time of his life and I'm sitting at home crying my eyes out every night. What do I do?

Fact- you cared a lot more than he did.

Well eventually I guess he got sick of living with me and moved back to his parent's house

Fact- You ignored every red flag you should have seen

This guy is known for being a big time player

I never saw this coming. I treated him so well. I don't believe I deserve this.

Fact- Your heart broken, and need to heal
Have no contact with him ever again.

[babyshooter11]

So I'm still trying to get over my ex and I'm turning to music as sort of a therapy. So does anybody know any really good songs to listen to that are about break ups? But the only thing is that I'm kind of into rock and I don't want to listen to anything about how the person misses their ex and wants them back I want to listen to one of those songs that just empower you and make you feel great. Kind of like "Gone Forever" by three days grace. So please help if you have any suggestions!

[ZoeMarie]

Apocalyptica- I don't care?? Maybe?? I don't know. Good song though!

[jmw0713]

Yea, Apocoliptica - "I don't care!" is awesome. I also like Metallica "The Day that Never Comes"

[babyshooter11]

So I'm currently trying to survive a break up and I'm having lots of trouble getting this guy out of my head. I don't talk to him anymore and really I don't even know if he's still alive. But everything I do seems to remind me of him constantly. It's hard because the second I start to think about him it seems to ruin the rest of my day. I keep wondering what he's doing and if he still thinks about me too. How do I get him off my mind?

[neverme]

Take up something new that's a group or social activity, a new skill, new people and something you can't possibly associate with him!

[kctiger]

The breakup is still fresh in your mind, and it will be for some time. The only thing you can do is refocus your energy to other things. Try and jam your schedule so much that you don't even have time to think about him. It is also a good thing, for awhile, to grieve and cry and let all of the other emotions out in the beginning. Surpressing them won't do any good. It is normal to go through what you are going through. Just don't call or contact him in any way, shape, or form. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him as well. You will be fine. Healing is a process... and a long one at that. The more proactive you are, the better results you will see.

[Gabriella19]

1. Delete the messages in your mobile
2.Delete all the photos that you have with him
I know that is very very difficult but you have to do it to forget him
3.Avoid the places where you went freqeuntly with him.
4.When you start to think of him start to think of something else
5.Go out with another boy
6.Think of him in a negative way

[kctiger]

Going out with another boy is not the answer. You can't just replace your ex (with whom you had a deep emoitional connection with). People are too fast in trying to find someone else when they break up. You don't need to have a boyfriend. Learn to be happy with yourself and start to love yourself again. No rush in finding someone else.

[surfskate7000]

It isn't rock but go away by casely is a great song

[babyshooter11]

So I'm still struggling to get over an ex. I'm doing everything that I should. As hard as it really is I force myself to ignore his texts and emails. I even blocked him (that was probably the hardest thing ever). For some reason I want to hear from him. I don't know why. One half of me is ready to get rid of him and knows that I'll never be happy with him but the other half just can't stand being without him. It's a tricky question to answer but if anyone can help please do...

[Forever2b]

OHH how I can relate.
You want to feel he loves you, but you know his love will only hurt you more.
From experience.. for a while I won't talk to the guy... I won't hear from him, ill occupy my thoughts with something else... I will be happy. Then comes the damned day he signs on, or calls, and all of a sudden he's in my thoughts again... and as much as he woo's me with his romantic phrases and such... it only leaves me lonlier. My advice is occupy yor time with other things and put him away for a while because it will only hurt you further.
Date other people, hang with friends.
Be open to something new

[luvyrkez]

How long were you together? You may feel this way because being with him is mostly "habit". If you know he is no good for you, try writing down a few of those reasons on sticky notes and put them by the phone, fridge, etc. The places you are at mostly. This helped me when I divorced. I thought it was stupid at first, but keeping those things in the front of your mind when the phone rang was helpful so I wouldn't want to talk to him. Be strong, keep supportive people around you, and stay busy. Good luck!

[babyshooter11]

Oh god thank you I really thought that nobody would post anything on this.

[luvyrkez]

Well? How's it going? Day by day...

[babyshooter11]

A little better I can't help but feel like this is the saddest thing ever though.