[spitvenom]

We didn't talk for 6 months and I mean nothing no emails no texting NOTHING! It felt like years. It was hard especially since we were friends for 5 years before we started dating then dated for 2 years then went through the whole I need my space thing. What made it even harder was we had the same friends. It wasn't like she had her friends and I had mine, They were the same people.

So I would have to check to make sure she wasn't there because it would have gotten ugly. But then one day I showed up to a concert I didn't think she would be there and she was. We started talking having a good time and everything started to fall back into place. She let me know that she wasn't ready to be in so deep in a relationship and she just got scared she didn't actually need her space she just wanted to see how it felt not to be with me.

I asked her why it took so long to talk to me again and she said my best friends told her that I hated her and never wanted to see her again. Which I did say but that was the night she dumped me of course I was mad but I didn't really mean it. We patched everything up and that was about 3 years ago and everything has been perfect since then.

[LifeChangesMan]

Thanks my friend, you got my head up higher then it was.

[spitvenom]

Keep that head up. You will be OK.

[LifeChangesMan]

Did you happen to ask her if she still thought about you the whole time? And still loved you? And wanted to be back together?

[spitvenom]

It basically went like this. I walked up she saw me I saw her I walked away. She came over to me and said so and so was right you do hate me. I said I don't hate you but I can't be around you because I am not over you and I can't act like it doesn't hurt. She then said it is killing her to not be with me anymore. I asked why she didn't call or anything like that and she said because so and so said you hated me and never wanted to see me again. I said I was just mad but I am deeply in love with you I tried to be with different girls and it was horrible she said she tried to be with other guys but just thought about me the entire time.

We both cried hugged left the concert went to a diner in Philly and just talked till like 3 in the morning. After that everything was back to normal.

[LifeChangesMan]

I see, that's good news. I'm very happy for you man. Best of luck to you and your fiance'

[spitvenom]

Thanks. Trust me try that with the tickets, it shows you still care but respect her wishes for space. Oh and by the way when we broke up it was right after my birthday and she bought 2 tickets to the 76ers game. Well she insisted going with me let me tell you it was the most uncomfortable basketball game I have ever been to. The entire drive there through the entire game then the drive home we didn't say a single word to each other except maybe hi then bye. I never want to go through that again.

So Send her those tickets and tell her to take a friend. Don't look at it as you wasting X amount of dollars look at it as an investment into her happiness.

[LifeChangesMan]

I was going to right
To, (name) I love you always & forever, (me
No flowers? Just a plain card?

[spitvenom]

Don't do the flowers and a plain card is fine. Just remember to say Happy Birthday!!

[wikedjuggalo]

Your jumping the gun here man. Stop.
Don't go about sending anything.

[LifeChangesMan]

Yeah... I got her christmas necklace to man she wanted I got it for her a month ago when she picked it up, what you think about that too?

[wikedjuggalo]

yeah...i got her christmas necklace to man she wanted i got it for her a month ago when she picked it up, wat you think about that too?

Stop. I'm trying to tell you before you jump the gun and do something stupid to stop. Let thing settle. Still a few weeks away from any of that.

[LifeChangesMan]

Your right pal. I'll keep you updated, you got my back?

[wikedjuggalo]

I have since you posted. The point of these boards are to help. Now please listen to what I type. I listened to what people posted here and it was the best for me. I kept my dignity. Read my story here

[LifeChangesMan]

All right first of all wicked, get a real car like an EVO like myself, but ANYWAY that's some serious stuff, I'm glad you kept your head up and receieved some positives, so what was the outcome NC for how long? And then what?

[wikedjuggalo]

alright first of all wicked, get a real car like an EVO like myself, but ANYWAY that's some serious stuff, i'm glad you kept your head up and receieved some positives, so what was the outcome NC for how long?? and then what?

Nah Evo's arnt cars they are crap =D. But seriously the Subaru SVX is a very nice car =D. She choose the other guy and I was devastated (if you read ;o) and have been NC since then and feeling good. You need to understand you have no control over the situation. This is part of the reason I tell you to stop jumping the gun. Wait and see what happens lay low and take it easy. Please take the advise. Don't go sending things I was going to do the same thing but don't. Stop thinking so far ahead.

As far as then what? I learned to live life and just go with it. I took a nice trip as I posted and had a lot of fun haha. Something I would have never done with her.

[LifeChangesMan]

Good for you man, I'm glad to hear your doing well, I guess only time will tell today's day 10 of NC for me. I'm doing well, and hoping for the best outcome for me. Amd for the record my evo would dust your... subie

[wikedjuggalo]

good for you man, i'm glad to hear your doing well, i guess only time will tell todays day 10 of NC for me. i'm doing well, and hoping for the best outcome for me. amd for the record my evo would dust your...subie

Haha sure it might dust it but I could drive mine to the end of the world in comfort the SVX isn't meant for racing but if I had the STI you'd be done for. Keep your head high and wait for her to contact you which she will at some point if it is just a break. Better yourself in this time like I said =D. Don't expect life to be peachy lol I'd had a lot of between my NC time happen including but not limited to blowing a transmission and having a baby scare =D

[LifeChangesMan]

Please that STI would be embarrassed my friend, but I got my head up and the way I see it is if she really loves me and meant she wants to spend her life with me and everything she'll come around, and if not I was living a lie anyway and I'm really not missing out because I was lied to for over 4.5 years. So I'm going to do big things now. Maybe another relationship down the road, way down the road but I wouldn't count on it. :cool:

[wikedjuggalo]

Cough rethink that quicker =D
But yeah just have fun in life!