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    jj890 Posts: 57, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Sep 23, 2008, 03:58 PM
    Broken Hearted
    Well,
    I have been dating this girl for about 4months now and sometimes its just like she keeps pushing away from me, she talks to her ex a lot, his name is Mikey, he has taken her from me once, and I don't want that to happen to me again, I was very hurt. It seemed like she didn't even care. But I don't understand her, it's like one minute she loves me and all that good stuff, but then the next she's like oohhh I can't talk I'm busy right now. I don't know if I can trust her anymore, a lot of guys like her.. I just don't know if I can deal with it.

    My question for you is, should I trust her and stay with her?
    Or should I let her go, and move on with life, and I can find someone better.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 03:59 PM

    Let her go. Do you really want to be with someone who is going to keep leaving you for their ex, over and over and over? You ARE better than that and you DO deserve better than that.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 04:05 PM

    Relationships are about trust. If you cannot trust her then you should not be with her. You said that yourself.

    I personally would move on and find someone who will give you the time of day to talk to you.

    Actions speak louder then words. She obviously is not over her ex if she already left you once for him. Not to sound negative but what will stop her again from leaving?
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    Sep 23, 2008, 04:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by wikedjuggalo View Post
    Relationships are about trust. If you cannot trust her then you should not be with her. You said that yourself.

    I personally would move on and find someone who will give you the time of day to talk to you.

    Actions speak louder then words. She obviously is not over her ex if she already left you once for him. Not to sound negative but what will stop her again from leaving?
    Thanks, that helped a lot.
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    #5

    Sep 23, 2008, 04:14 PM
    You deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect. She would rather play games. Move on to someone better.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 04:26 PM

    I think she has you, and the ex. You could do better, as this is too much stress to be having fun, and that's what dating is about.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 04:33 PM

    You are in much better position now compare to what you will be in if you hang around with her and play her game... its a sign for you to STOP and take a U-Turn. Cheers.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 04:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by myselfme99 View Post
    u r in much better position now compare to what u will be in if u hang around with her and play her game...its a sign for you to STOP and take a U-Turn. Cheers.
    Do you think I should not keep in contact with her anymore?
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    Sep 23, 2008, 05:02 PM
    Absolutely my dear friend... avoid this gusty wind now because later it would swirl you like a tornado.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 05:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by myselfme99 View Post
    Absolutely my dear friend... avoid this gusty wind now coz later it would swirl u like a tornado.
    All right, Thanks for the advice.
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    #11

    Sep 23, 2008, 06:06 PM

    No Worries... let us know how you feel later in a week or so.

    Cheers.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 06:09 PM

    JJ she is having her cake and eating it too. You are her fall back man. Don't get used and don't have any contact with her. She is playing games and it sounds like you want something more. Let her have her ex you find someone who wants you. You can find someone better for sure there are billions of women out there. Good luck and stand your ground and protect yourself from her hurtful game.
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    Sep 23, 2008, 06:58 PM
    Although bloomin hard, never accept anyone mucking you about. Have a pair and walk away, with your head held high.
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    Sep 24, 2008, 03:38 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Jiser View Post
    Although bloomin hard, never accept anyone mucking you about. Have a pair and walk away, with your head held high.
    What does that mean?
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    Sep 24, 2008, 03:41 PM

    You are the guy she knows will always be there, whether she knows because you've told her this before or because you display such devotion in your actions. She will walk all over you. She will use you. Because you will always be there.

    Don't always be there. Period.
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    Sep 24, 2008, 03:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    I think she has you, and the ex. You could do better, as this is to much stress to be having fun, and thats what dating is about.
    What do you mean she has us both? Do you mean she's cheating? Or does she just have two boys to go back and fourth to.
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    Sep 24, 2008, 05:52 PM

    I mean grow a pair of balls. Don't accept anyone mucking you around! Walk away and don't look back is what I mean champ.
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    #18

    Sep 24, 2008, 06:07 PM

    Just think about it it will come to you
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    Sep 24, 2008, 06:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ntbntb78 View Post
    just think about it it will come to you
    Think about what?. Lol.
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    #20

    Sep 27, 2008, 06:04 PM

    I mean all the answers above are on point but I will warn... droping her and not keeping a friendship with someone you used to have feelings for is not easy, if anything keep it casual... yet, again by avoiding her you could teach her, hmm kind of depends on your strength in this scenario... I hope you stay strong

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