When a relationship ends we all need to achieve is the Ol' magic NC (No contact) - for consecutive days in a row. And here's a place to put your number up!

SO, where are you in the count?


Share your number:


1? 21? 61? 101? Or best of all:A GOOD NEW RELATIONSHIP
(the goal of all this soul cleansing silence). Note: If you've called, texted, emailed, or visited though it.. uhhh... resets to zero :rolleyes:
We are all rooting for you - even if you have to restart again!

STARTING OVER IS NORMAL AND 100% OK!! IT HAPPENS EVERY DAY.

I was going on a week of NC, till he messaged me on myspace today to tell me that I hope I'm happy, because he definitely is.
*crushed* =/

OK. Today is day 1!

In this era of myspace, Facebook, texting, emailing and cell phoning - it's harder than ever.

So, OK, starting over! Next Thursday you'll have gone father than ever... and one day it just won't matter...

I wish it were easy.. but if you read my other posts, you can tell I'm just a mess.

Day 11 here !

Meh.. I broke mine about a week ago I was doing good for like a 4 weeks until I called her from which she ignored me again and got a email to leave her alone... so no NC or not I think I ruined it right there.. the 4 weeks were looking good to like I had a chance but whatever

Lost... DELETE HIM from myspace and then block his user ID... plain and simple

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Originally Posted by iceeman

meh..i broke mine about a week ago i was doing good for like a 4 weeks until i called her from which she ignored me again and got a email to leave her alone...so no NC or not i think i ruined it right there..the 4 weeks were looking good to like i had a chance but whatever

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You didn't ruin it, but you had a setback! NORMAL!!

You probably benefitted from a little closure...

So, let's say you get a bonus of a week.

So, you are on... day 7 :-)

Day 27 and I'm dying here. Seriously I think its getting worse!

Nice one... almost a month.

(keep in mind once people feel OK they wander away from site, so we can't see everyone's "healing number")

It gets worse before it gets better because our brain fears the reality of the separation as it gets more real, but you will feel a change coming...


I recommend 90-100 minimum to get bearings... so stay strong.

Well it's back to zero again since I heard from her this morning. It will continue to be like this until I cut all ties which I have finally decided to do.

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Originally Posted by bigdee

well it's back to zero again since I heard from her this morning. It will continue to be like this until I cut all ties which I have finally decided to do.

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No one said this was easy!!

Glad to hear you are going to take action!

We'll help you get your number up :cool:

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Originally Posted by Ash123

nice one....almost a month.

(keep in mind once people feel ok they wander away from site, so we can't see everyone's "healing number")

it gets worse before it gets better because our brain fears the reality of the separation as it gets more real, but you will feel a change coming ....


i recommend 90-100 minimum to get bearings....so stay strong.

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Does it help sometimes to make them realize what they lost?

You say and do all you have to at the start - and then silence is power.

Once NC begins that is your time.

If they don't come back then it is the universe's way of saying there is someone better out there for you...

Thanks ash. I just need that reminder. You are right, as usual! :)

Good new relationship on my end and now my ex is the one constantly talking to me, but I keep it friendly ha ha

Nice one!

victory!

How many days until you felt good to go?

Ha ha I actually lost count after the 3 month barrier... I had met the girl I was with in February, I wasn't looking for anything. I simply paged that it was her birthday over my old works loud speaker and we began talking. And then in March we started talking relationship wise, and have been together ever since.

My ex, well I broke NC I believe in May, because I felt content with my healing and knew I could handle it. She was asking if I had any doubts, was asking my friends how strong my new relationship was and telling people she is still in love with me. I simply told her, I will always have a place for you in my heart, but only as a friend. Our relationship was flawed, you decided to go your own way and I relucantly at first, went on mine and I feel as though we are both at terrific places in our lives.

She did NOT take it well

Exactly.

90 days and things get fuzzy - unless you were married, engaged or cheated upon...
Then you may need to add a few.

You are the poster boy for functional healing.

Well done man.

What if you don't WANT to be over them? What if you're trying nc because you know you should but you actually want him to come back?
I feel like ill be stuck in limbo forever