Partner visiting massage parlors
I have just found out that my parter has been visiting massage parlors for masturbation. This has totally shattered me as I never thought for one second that he was capable of this sort of behaviour. When I confronted him he denied it but I have the proof. He has confessed to me that up until a couple of years ago he had an addiction to these 'massages' for which he saw a therapist but swears that he is not doing it again. I have the proof that he has, including records of his phone calls to these girls. I consider what he is doing to be cheating even though he is not having actual sexual intercourse with them. I am a mess and don't know what to do. He made me believe that he had the same ideals about sharing your body with others as I do. I really don't have anyone to talk to and I feel dirty and also afraid that I have a disease. Has anyone been through a similar experience. I don't know whether to leave or not. Our relationship was great and he says he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. I love him so much and I am devastated. I feel like my life has been taken from me. He said he will go to counseling but that I'm not allowed to raise the fact that he had a past addiction to these girls. He has told me that it's my problem that I don't trust him.
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I finally agree with you this time :), good points
Sexually transmitted diseases
I have just found out that my partner has been visiting massage parlors for masturbation. Is it possible to get diseases from this? I know the masturbation takes place unprotected and there is no other form of contact. It worries me about what might be on the hands and under the fingernails of these girls who 'service' these disgusting men. My last pap smear one month ago tested positive to hvp virus. I am terrified of what else I may have.