Relationship within a relationship
I have been dating a guy whom I met at work a year ago. He is in a so-called very unhappy relationship. He says that he has been faithful till the end, but she is very insecure about herself so she does not trust him. (She was an ugly duckling). Anyway, we connected and became very close, although we mostly talked and 'spend time' at work. We were intimate, and had sex once. Other times it was mostly kissing and petting, although I could tell he felt guilty afterwards, and always tried to make things work with her. He even broke it off with me and we agreed not to text, call, etc. It worked for awhile, but then we started working together more often and things got heated again. The attraction was always there. Anyway, a few weeks ago, he changed jobs for more money. We said our goodbyes although he lives in the same town, he lives with this lady so I know that I won't see him often. We still kept in touch. One night I called his phone,and she answered and they had an argument. He told me that things were okay, although I apologized for calling him late at night, I reall needed someone to talk to. His sister and I are really close, and she even talked to him and he told her that all was okay. I have called him and left several messages,explaining how sorry I was for going against his advice and calling him late at night. He has not called me back, or responded. I am about to give up. Either he is mad at me for calling,or like his sister said, is trying to test me to see how far I would go to reach him,( for example coming to his new job or calling his home phone). Honestly, I thought about both, but I know I care about him too much to disrespect him in that way. I don't know what to do. I know that he is with her, and loves her, or he wouldn't still be there. But he says that he loves me too. I want to keep letting him know that I didn't mean to call him that late. But I wonder if he is testing me, as his sister mentioned,and maybe I should not fall into his trap and just move on. What do I do?