Broke up with me but still says she loves me
Last Sunday my ex Girlfriend of 4 and a half years dumped me over the phone.
The next day she came over to finish it off, and before leaving she kissed me very passionately.
She has sworn that there is no-one else and I believe her, we had a lot of trust in our relationship, we were closer than any other couple I know. She said she can't even think about seeing another guy at the moment, but she wasn't going to change her mind about us.
When I asked her was there any chance of us ever, she just said 'I don't know, maybe in the future but definitely not now.'
She has started uni a month ago and she says she's been having doubts about us for about a month (coincidence) so I think that all the changes going on are freaking her out. She's definitely been a little different with me for a few weeks, but still very passionate in every way, and very loving towards me. Surely you can't lose those feelings overnight? Or pretend to have them for a month?
She said that I am her best friend and the reason that we split up is because she doesn't love me in 'That way' anymore, even though the kiss didn't really match up with that statement.
She desperately wanted to be friends but after about 3 days I said I couldn't handle it because it would hurt me too much.
I basically said thank you for the best four years of my life, goodbye, now I haven't talked to her in 2 days and it's really hard because for four years we talked on the phone every night.
Am I doing the right thing? I know I need to move on but I want there to be a chance of us in the future, because I truly feel she is 'The One' I just think she's confused. Plus I don't want her to realise this a year down the line if I'm over her by then. I think she just desperately wants a bit of freedom.
Plus she still said 'I love You' at the end of every phone conversation before we stopped talking.
It just seems like she's fine with it all and I'm totally destroyed by this. I have cried every day since.
Any advise would be great