I've been dating a guy pretty off an on for over a year now. But I was a virgin when we met, I lost my virginity to him also thinking he was a virgin (He'd told me he was) however we "did stuff" and now I've just found out he lied about having sex with a girl he dated 2 years ago (He dated her for a little over a year). They also made out and touched each other sexually, he says he "rubbed her" several times through her clothes. Fact of the matter is I'm very hurt he lied to me and very bothered by his past, I've lost a lot of my feelings for him, especially the intimate ones. Should I let him go?

Looks like you are looking for a reason to break up with him. If this bothers you, break up and be done with it. What about his past bothers you?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Looks like you are looking for a reason to break up with him. If this bothers you, break up and be done with it. What about his past bothers you?

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I'm bothered he had sex with another girl

How old are the two of you?

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Originally Posted by J_9

How old are the two of you?

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Im 18 he's 20

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Originally Posted by Richgurl2000

Im 18 hes 20

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Why does it matter?

Your age would explain some things and would make a difference in advice given.
If you two break up and you meet someone down the road, you would have had sex with someone else as well. He had sex with another girl before he met you, but if this bothers you break up with him.
How long has it been since you've had sex and why has your relationship been off and on? Maybe the relationship should be off and maybe stay off.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Your age would explain some things and would make a difference in advice given.
If you two break up and you meet someone down the road, you would have had sex with someone else as well. He had sex with another girl before he met you, but if this bothers you break up with him.
How long has it been since you've had sex and why has your relationship been off and on? Maybe the relationship should be off and maybe stay off.

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I understand what your saying but he had sex and touched this girl sexually when he wa just 15... N I'm mad he lied to me about it, but every time I dump him he harasses me :/

Maybe he lied because he thought you would be mad,( which you are) that he had sex with someone at such a young age. What he did was before you, he didn't have to tell you anything.
Just because he harasses you does not mean you should take him back. Break up with him and be done with it.

You either look at where your relationship is and has been and see he chose you to make a life with OR you let your 2 hurts over the past ruin everything. Break up and chances of finding that special virgin are slim to none and now you can't even tell a potential guy that you are a virgin.

You guys have been off and on. You need to make up your mind to stay or go. As young as you both are, I'd say move on.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You guys have been off and on. You need to make up your mind to stay or go. As young as you both are, I'd say move on.

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Thanks for the advice, I don't feel like I can even trust him so I'm going to let him go

Yes, if you can't trust him anymore, so then relationship is over whether you want to keep it going or not. If he lied about his past, imagine what else he can lie about?

I'm sure you will find happiness again. You just have to give yourself the chance to meet new people.

Are you still at home with your parents?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...ts-768616.html

In this post you are 16, what gives?

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Are you still at home with your parents?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...ts-768616.html

In this post you are 16, what gives?

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Good call. What's the deal?

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Good call. What's the deal?

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A let a friend use it? Wow chill

You are not supposed to do that. It is very confusing.

The other post was deleted and she can get her own account.