Baby Mama Drama & Was I Wrong, & Was My Boyfriend Wrong?
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baby mama drama, all messed up!
Ok, Me and my boyfriend started going together on August 1st 2007, on September 27th 2007 the girl he dealt with before we got together called him and told him she was pregnant and that the baby might be his but she didn't know if him or another guy was the father. He said OK and he told me and I said OK. Well after that the girl started drama with me lying and acting crazy to try and break us up even though there relationship was just sex and it was over the course of a month in June 2007, so nothing serious. I was supportive of my boyfriend keeping in contact with her at first but every time he would talk to her or see her, she would call me saying they had sex or that he said he didn't go with me so we ended up not getting along and eventually I wanted him to have nothing to do with her because she was targeting me when I had been nothing but nice to her from the beginning.
Well she kept causing drama and from then on talking about how she was going to slap me and beat me up after she had the baby and she also started telling everyone that her and my boyfriend were together and that he was her baby's father even though she didn't know just to make it seem like I was being cheated on.
I found out I was pregnant in jan. 2008 and she stopped the drama for a while because I think she thought that having a baby would make him want her which it didn't and since I was pregnant she realized that she couldn't hold the baby against him anymore. She had the baby in march 2008 and my boyfriend went to for the birth, but ended up leaving before the birth because she kept cursing at him and talking bad about him in front of her family.
He eventually stopped having anything to do with the baby because I was pregnant and every time he went to visit the baby she would call me saying they had sex and stressing me out trying to make me loose my baby, so he didn't want to put my pregnancy in jeopardy because he knew our baby was his. He told her to call him when they were going to take the paternity test.
Well me and him had our daughter on September 22nd 2008 and it's been great and now on march 13th 2009 he gets child support recovery letters in the mail for the other baby which is fine cause we had been waiting for the court date and test, but she purposely waited a whole year so she could try and get back child support and have control over the situation, plus her and her recent boyfriend has split up.
My boyfriend called her that day 2 talk to her about it and she told him that she doesn't want to put him on child support, she just wants him to help her with the baby if the test comes back 99.9% his and he said of course he would help take care of his child, but we think he should just go through with the child support so, she can't try and keep the baby away from him when she gets mad, and so later on if she gets an attitude she can't try and change her mind and do him wrong a put him on child support even though she knew they had an agreement, what do you think he should do, child support/visitation or an agreement between the both of them??