Thinking of going 100% no contact
So, to cut a long story short, my ex and I had been together for almost two years. The 8 months of those were as a long distance relationship... which naturally had its ups and downs. It all came to a head when she couldn't get a professional job where I lived (thru no fault of her own and I accept that decision).
I now know that that wasn't the only reason... she really didn't move down because she wasn't attracted with me and didn't want to be with me... even if she could hide that behind the façade of not being able to get a job.
Anyway... we have been broken up for almost months now... and it has sucked. For the first two week we weren't really broken up... still telling each other how much we loved each other, still talking every night, kept our Facebook relationship status the same... but then she hooked up with some other guy (the same guy as I had suspected earlier no doubt) and it all changed...
Instantly I became that needy horrible guy trying to convince her to come back to me, and show how much she had hurt me. Needless to say it didn't work.
Anyway... I stopped doing that. She came crawling back to me somewhat but found another guy to make her feel better anyway... she is still seeing this guy although I am not meant to know about it.
I suspect she is going to tell me about him this week... we always said we would tell each other if we found something serious... which I suspect this guy might me on some level, although I know she is justing using him to ease her break up pain.
So... I know she is just stringing me along at least to some point... she is keeping me as as back out plan for when it falls through with this guy, she is weaning herself off me...
So I expect this week she will announce her relationship with this guy to me... and this is my plan:
When she tells me I will send her an email along these lines:
Victoria:
"I respect your decision to be with someone else. In fact, I am happy for you. For some screwed up reason I still consider you to be my best friend... so all I want is you to be happy. I hope this new guy makes you as happy as I made you.
But... I want you to respect my decision...
I do NOT want you to email me. I do NOT want to hear from you. I do NOT want you to text me or call me. I do NOT want to see you over Xmas and New Years.
I know this will be hard for both of us. But it is the way it has to be.
I am not saying I never want to hear from you again... but I need you to respect my decision to move on from you.
Don’t call me unless you change your mind and want to give us another try. This window of opportunity will not be open forever... I am not holding my breath anymore.
I need to cut you out of my life so I can heal. I am not saying that we do not ever have a future together... maybe we do... but at the same time I have to get along with my life.
I will give you one chance right now... if you don't believe this is the right way to go, you can respond to this email and let me know how you feel about "us". Otherwise, I am sorry, but this is the way it has to be... "
What do you think??