Today, my boyfriend with whome I've been with exactly 1 year 3 months and 9 days, we ended our relationship today because we decided it would be best not to hurt each other. His parents are Muslim, but it seems like it wasn't so much their religion but rather their family social status that influenced them to force their son to cut his relationship with me. Right now I'm devastated, heartbroken, sad, breatheless, this seemed to be something that would never happen, not to us- we were the perfect couple, we fell in love from first sight. We planned to go to university and then get married. We plan on being friends, but the problem is that we have never been friends we have been always a couple. I don't think 'accidents' like this don't happen everyday. Please help...

I don't know what exactly to help with... you seem to understand that his family is important to him and that even though you were the "perfect couple" it wasn't enough to override his family concerns. I am sorry for your loss.

This is very sad but I think it is more accurate to say that religion has come between you and not his parents. I can imagine how painful this is, you were seeing each other for almost a year and a half. Unless he has a change of heart and decides to defy his parents and their culture, I think you will have to be prepared to move on with your life. Is going out with friends for distraction a possibility? Keep busy, look for distraction till you are feeling stronger. And avoid jumping into any new relationships too soon. Take time for yourself. Be good to yourself, you are a nice person. This is no one's fault, this is a cultural thing.

I'm in the same situation now but it's the other way around. My bf's parents and relatives don't like me because of culture and religion. We are in a 4 yr relationship and 3 years of it,we had a long distance relationship, so also painful for us. Hope to chat with you someday so we can share experiences and exchange advices.

My boyfriend can't take it seeing his parents being hurt and sick because of him fighting for our relationship. At this time, I don't know if staying or moving on is the best thing to do. But for us, better to give it time, to do what's right for now,to let go, move on and maybe if it's destiny then,we'll be back in each other's arms.

Unfortunately there is not much you can do given that he chose his family and their beliefs over your relationship. The best advice is to just let it go and use this time to heal.